Posted by
jwm
17 yrs ago
Move on if it bothers you that much. She obiously is not interested in you in a romantic way and you obiously have an issue wth her just wanting to be friends, so there is no match here. Part on friendly terms and move on... It is a blow for the male ego, but, that's part of life and it seems she is at least trying to spare you some of the pain and disappointment.
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LJBF
It is hard to come back from that, if you kinda fell in love/had feelings what ever.
But I have femail friends. But if you cannot vbe freinds, well there wasn't much of a basis for a relationship.
LJBF does not mean "shove of wierdo I don't like you". It means I like you but I don't fancy you. I don't think this is selfish at all.
What borders on selfish if is the girls says 'I am not ready for a relatiohinp at the moment'. And when you ask her if she might consider it she replies 'Never say never'.
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jwm
17 yrs ago
Let's Just be friends... is the acronym
and dude... just move on from her, I know that sounds easier than it is, but there are numerous other women out there that will want to enter into a relationship.
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Fatkid
I was in a similar situation myself and wasted two years of my life.
The relationship is not good for you. If she wants to be jsut friends and you cannot handle it then move on. If you re-read your early posts you do sound bitter.
Instead of just blaming her, take a look at yourself. Look from an outside perspective. You can control your side of the relationship, you cannot control her.
You can choose to stay for nothing or make choices that will help you. Try not calling her. If she calls you then chat, you are friends afterall. But don't call her yourself, and don't invite her over or invite yourself to hers.
I did this in my situation in the past. I used to call her up, she would tell me all her problems and we would be on the phone for an hour or so. This happened twice a week. And maybe I would go round two or three times a month. I decided not to call her and see how long it was before she called me. Days turned into weeks, and after 9 months of her not calling me I moved on.
Move, on as this is obviosly an harmful relationship. You will probably have feeling for her for some time, but you will meet somebody else.
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This is so funny, my gf's and I always gripe about guys who don't even want to be friends as soon as you turn them down romantically. It's like saying to a girl, I just want to get into your pants and if you're not interested, then I don't even care that you're a nice/intelligent/charming/humourous/caring person who I can hang out with and be friends with. I think a lot of it has to do with the male ego not handling rejection well. Of course that's not always true and not all men are the same, but for the time I've been in the dating scene in HK, once you turn someone down romantically (esp when you haven't known them for very long) they blank you and don't even want to be friends.
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fatkid, grow up and learn how to handle rejection, it happens to all of us.
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And no, I'm not the same person as the one you referred to, am single gal, no BF issues thank goodness!
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Yeah, mate, it's really time to move on. She's not interested, get over it.
Is this the first time you've been dumped? The first time is always the worst. When my first love dumped me after a 3 yr relationship well I was just devistated, self harming, the works! But hey, you get over it you move on, and you meet someone a hundred times better! Remember, every rejection is an opportunity to meet someone better!
However, you just have a crush on some girl who you've raised on this pedistool to such a high level you seem to think your life is incomplete just cos you can't date this girl.
She is just a girl.
There are millions and millions of girls in the world. Many of them don't play games. Maybe you could find one that doesn't.
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