Meeting Men outside of clubs!

As there's a 'Meeting Women outside of clubs', why not to have a 'Meeting men outside of clubs'?


Undoubtedly, clubs and bars are where you could get the most/ fastest hook-ups and even get laid. But how about a relationship? Do you think club/ bar is a good place for getting a relationship or it's all about fun only? I start getting bored of going to clubs now as what I could get is just tons of flings. It would be fun for the beginning but later on, you would ask yourself, why it's a fling again? (not becoz I'm not attractive ;)


Or any better way to meet men? Joining a community or interest group or so?

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Is this a real question or a joke?


Men are ALWAYS receptive to an attractive woman approaching us. Its in the technique not the location.


You can speak right? Some language, which one doesn't even really matter although you are hampered in the long term relationship ting if you cant understand at least one out 4 words you say to each other.


Just walk up to a guy anywhere, on the street, wherever and ask him a question. ie, what time is it? Even if you have a watch on, shake it and dont hold it where he can see it long enough to know, then say my watch is broken, do you have the time? Thnx, Im "X" whats your name. Hey you want to grab a drink later or a bite to eat?


Seriously the only time we are not going to be receptive (assuming we find you attractive and you dont have some annoying laugh or do something disgusting like hack up and spit or blow your nose on the sidewalk in front of us is if we are with the wrong people. Wife (just kidding please dont flame me!), GF(LOL again), Boss (sometimes) etc. But making it a thing for a later time because we might be busy right now and getting a number to follow up with is all it takes. Then get him to talk about himself, we are into our selves, as are you all, thats a trick that works w anyone. It keeps you mysterious and lets them ramble about things they are interested in.


Last, tease us but don't give it up right away. Maybe plant one on us in the parking lot before you send us home alone. It makes us interested and puts us into chase mode. This is important because when we score too easily we tend to lose interest as far as serious relationships are concerned. You can for sure be a booty call etc. but long term relationships rarely start out with an easy first night fling. I dont know if we lose respect for you, thats not really the right way to put it. Women put it that way, but I don't think we see it like that. We love you for giving us what we want, for being straight up, like a guy. But something of that pursuit mistique that entices us to invest more into the relationship will be lost and probably will never have a chance to reassert itself and then you are just done.


Seriously though, meeting us is easy. Don't think too much on it just walk up and say hi. I cant say if that will work on Asian guys though, msybe you will come off too forward. Any western guy worth your time however will have the confidence to not be put off but a woman who has the cojones (just as long as those are figurative not literal ones LOL) to step up.

Great to listen to some honesty on this issue ..so would you say few Asian chaps would be really interested or maybe just only the foreignly-educated ones and ABCs ?

yes it's something i'd like to know too fakecake.


and i honestly dont believe in finding a real relationship in clubs. although i've seen it, it's so rare that it's not worth getting ur hopes up for.


i think the attitude should be just go out, have fun without worrying whether u'll meet anyone - the more u hope for something, the less likely u're going to find it (probably the unconscious signals u give out)


but if u do find out a better place to meet men - please tell us! good luck

Hey shirleywbird , what do u mean by "would you say few Asian chaps would be really interested or maybe just only the foreignly-educated ones and ABCs ?" Can't really get what you mean...


Hey Randomuser, I don't believe in relationship from clubs either. So that's why I ask where could I meet some guyz OUT OF clubs!! Maybe I did lay hope for the first few times I was in club, but afterwards, none! I dun even take any flirts. It's just so meaningless.

Ladies - My question is, where would you prefer to meet a single guy then?


P.S. I am single :)

Hi calmathetic, there are a few places that i can think of (where u can hang out, i assume that u're a guy)


- Dancefloor.

Not the typical rave party disco floor, but something exotic like Salsa or tango. Usually it's more ladies than guys, and plus you get to have fun meeting new people every single time.


- Bookstore

Some ladies do hang out at bookstore (obviously NOT looking for guys), and you dont have to worry about not having a topic in common.


- Coffee shop (esp the small ones that shy away from the busy streets)


- shops that sells collectibles/flowers


- gym classes (maybe after but not during)


One big no-no: Boutiques/clothing stores (really tough just to think of a pick-up line....)


oh, btw, the above is probably where "I" want to meet a guy. :P Personal preference applies.