Posted by
Alexandra
17 yrs ago
Ive been out a few times with a British guy who comes here on business irregularly. Anyway, when we first met, he told me he found me very attractive and wanted to sleep with me. I didnt think the timing was right and declined but was thinking that the right time really wouldnt be too far away. Since that time, we've been out 3 or 4 times and Ive stayed over at his. Absolutely nothing has happened. Ive tried to bring the subject up with him but he avoids answering my questions. He knows that I find him very attractive so its not that his ego was bruised or he doesnt know I like him. Whats a girl to do?
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Sounds like he is not in to you. If a guy wants you, you'll know...trust me!
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I'm agreeing with JC here.
Sounds like the guy is interested for a quick laid....if he hasnt gotten it on a first date, he's not interested anymore. It even worth less to mention whether he is "emotionally interested" in you.
If you still want to find out (of course you must be able to deal with the reality, if it turns out to be unpleasant), try ignoring him when he calls on you next time. See if he comes back to you.
Good luck.
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I agree with the posts above.. if a guy is into you then you'll know. But I also know that a bloke isn't going to keep on dating you if he doesn't think he's going to get into your pants.
Maybe he's following the age old thing that people want what they can't have, and he's playing mind games with you to make you really really want him.
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If you have stayed over at his, and it still hasn't happened................?
He either isn't in to you or there is some other issue.
Maybe yours, maybe his. It could be you are sending out the wrong signals, it could be he is misreading them.
If you are Chinese then there could also be a culture gap. I had a very attractive female work colleague, she was very classy and she wanted to play. She never gave a me a clear signal, in fact she appeared to be off limits. But I misread the signals.
Puting yourself in the same room as a man, even at night, is not a clear signal on its own. You need to be warm/hot and flirt. If you are playing cool and serene, it may be mistaken for lack of any interest in a romance.
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Mangotango's advice is worth trying too, but don't "bring the subject up with him" again [Guys dont like being confronted], put it into action (dig out that seductress self in you!) instead.
Good luck!
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Ah to live in everlasting hope :o)
I think, maybe initially he was interested but then over time he has realized that the original spark was a fluke and now he would prefer to just be friends. *shrug* The guy that sold a gazillion copies of "he's just not that into you" wasnt making stuff up that women were somehow not supposed to find out about, if anything, he has saved many men a lot of uncomfortable hand wringing!
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Oh come on everyone, I have yet to meet any normal man who would refuse sex with a willing female (presumably) staying in his bed overnight...this poor bloke has issues way beyond being "into" you honey, run like the wind, it's NOT about you I can assure you. This poor chap is a minefield of problems which you will waste time on solving and never will...I guarantee it...
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