Where to start once separated.

First thing: You need a divorce attorney. That will be your best investment ever. You need to know what you are entitled to, and also as I sense tension you can use your lawyer to talk to your ex, leaving all the drama behind.


Don't fight over small things. Let him have what you know he loves (whether is a boat, or a car, or a frame, or a piece of furniture) so you can use this to get what you want too. Be civilized and you will be amazed by the results.

Sometimes a marriage cannot be fixed. And the best thing to do for all concerned is to move on.


In the UK one of the last things we do is talk to a divorce attorney. As this seems to be a 'no fault'm divorce, you should be able to work things our amicably and fairly using an arbitration service, I assume they exist in Australia. This cuts out all the legal bills and does away with the adversarial element.


As said in the last post, don't fight over posessions. Don't fall into the trap of letting the possesions become a subsitiute for the relationahip and try to use them in as substitutes to fight over.

You need to think about the big investments, the property and kids. You can take advice on this, and there is where legal advice is valuable. But there is no need to get into a dispute with a lawyer. There are I am sure many websites that deal with Australian divorce laws, and settlement issues.


When I decided I needed to divorce my wife, it was the toughest decission I have ever had to make. It was a not fault divorce, it was just not working and we both deserved better. No lawyers were involved further than advising on the paperwork required. There was no bickeing over property, and the legal bill was less than the court fees for the divorce.