Posted by
emotions
16 yrs ago
Is that good idea? Well, we split up 3mths ago, after being together for abt 2 yrs. Of which, 1yr was a LDR, but we do meet up every 2-3 mths for a 2-3 week holiday, and rest of the time we will be on the phone etc.
Recently, he messaged me and asked if i wld like to meet him for a holiday at a beach resort.
Shld i go? He did also say not to look so deep into it. Its a new country, and one place that i would like to visit. I would like to go, not to rekindle anything btwn us, but just for a summer fling and also have another country of my list of places to visit. Any advise will be greatly appreciated - from both males and females.. Thanks! :)
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Wellll, it's really up to you, innit? If you're (both) happy with a summer fling, then go for it! If you're going "as friends", then go for it, too!
Just make sure you're clear on what you've been offered: a summer fling, or a travel companion? Just don't go for a summer fling if you think he's trying to get back together with you.
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Well you said you meet up every 2-3 months for a 2-3 week holiday so I can't really see the difference between past holidays and this pending one.
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Surely you can find another "travel companion" that doesn't entail so much 2nd guessing and drama?! I'd say, if you have to ask yourself "what if this and that" and "are we or aren't we", then you shouldn't go. Cos if it was really so "over" and you're "just friends", you wouldn't have to fret about it. Find someone else to go with you.
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Thanks for the replies.
From a guy's perspective, what wld be your reasons for inviting your ex to go on a holiday with you? given that for abt 2mths-ish, there were no contacts btwn us. and we didnt end the r/s on a nice or amicable note. I want to see him, maybe as a form of a possible closure btwn us. And maybe to try and see if things are really that bad that theres no turning bad to the point of not being able to stay as friends anymore.
I would like to know the possible 'consequences' that might happened after the trip. Do u guys reckon he is hoping for a rekindling? But given he told me not to look so deep into it, it seemed highly unlikely that he wants to rekindle anything. So the only thing top of my head, he wants me there just for sex.
I am torn btwn going or declining his invitation. Has anyone experienced this before? It wld be good to hear from anyone who has been in similar situations as me. Thanks ya'all!
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Although this is your ex and not a new bf, there are parallels here.
I have heard horror stories of couples who have just met, who go on holiday together. It is a mistake, a total disaster, and both parties are stuck sharing a hotel room until the end of the scheduled holiday, when the flights are booked.
I does have the potential for disaster.
Phone him and see what he really wants and decide what you want. If you consider that you are two grown ups who want some adult fun then fine, but it has to be what you both want.
It could be he has got a two for one deal at the resort, so you can both enjoy a cheap holiday.
It could be he wants to rekindle the flame.
But as was suggested above. Call him and find out, and make sure you are 'both on the same page'.
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He wants to have sex with you. If you call him now, he may be honest (but will probably lie anyway). If you talk to him there, he will say whatever it takes to have sex. There is almost NO chance that he will get back with you.
If all you want is to have a fun couple of weeks with no strings attached or even implied, go with it. But considering that fact that you asked for advice, that's not you.
Stay away, he'll just break your heart.
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