What should I do next?

I have a story to tell.


After 20 years marriage, for the first time, I really fell for someone, uncontrollable. I was so crazy in love with him although I was married. And he was too. But we just couldn't help with each other. After being with him, I realized that I couldn't stay with my husband-can't even have a sex and asked for a divorce. My husband was in agony.


In about a year, we lived separately and then he told me that he also got a girlfriend. Unfortunately, I couldn't keep a long relationship with the guy. His wife found out and then he went back to home and cut off completely with me.


And just at this time, my husband asked for a divorce. Now he really got out of me and fell in love with the lady. Suddenly, I feel like that I am to lose everything. I cried and cried and refused for the divorce. With my unconcious reaction, the divoice didn't go through. My husband left her and we kept the family. Sadly, after a year now, I feel no happiness with my husband. We are not like before, there is a wall between us--the past.


Sometimes, I just wonder what I should do next. Keep the status quo or walk out of the family, just like it was almost there.

Let me get this straight. After 20 years of marriage you leave your husband for another man. This crushes your husband. Then, when he is able to find happiness again, you deny him that by not granting a divorce. All because your "true love" has dumped you. Subsequently, your husband's new relationship fails and he comes back to you. Now you are wondering why it's not working? You've got to be kidding. You've made your bed girl. You're the one responsible for this mess, now you need to do the right thing. Ask for your husband's forgiveness and work to make things better.

agree with pumpkin..........how can you be so selfish? You have spat in his face and seems you only care for your own happiness....that is not marraige and definitely not love.

You've been given another chance - don't blow it and try to value the man. He's more worthy of you than you to him.


Of course there's a wall - you should try to break it as you were the one building it. If you are really not happy let him go free so that he can find a woman who appreciate him.