Husband meeting Ex -normal?

Just hoping to get anyone's perspective on whether it is 'normal' for husbands to suddenly resume friendships with exes when they have lost contact for a long time (ex initiated). Are lunch meetings or dinners alone considered normal? I trust my husband but in the long-run don't believe that it will benefit our marriage. Am i too paranoid or just playing safe?

No, absolutely not normal. I'd be very uncomfortable if my husband started having lunch or dinners alone with another woman. That's nothing to do with being insecure ... it's just not what I would consider normal or acceptable in a relationship. How would he react if you told him you were going out for lunch/dinners with an ex, or any other man? I wouldn't expect him to be very pleased about it. If it were just a one off occasion, because she was in town or something, and just catching up on old times, perhaps I could understand it (although I still wouldn't be happy about it!), but more than one occasion? No, I don't think you are being paranoid. If I were you I'd definitely have to tell him that I'm not happy with it, and if he cares about your feelings, and there's absolutely nothing in it, then he won't make any more arrangements to go out with her, and he won't make a song and dance about it either.

Thanks Sapphire, it's nice to hear that as i didn't know if i was the only one that found it a bit strange. My husband is happy to not meet but they both seem to feel that i am the one acting odd. Didn't want to come across as being insecure so i feel better now. Thanks!

< My husband is happy to not meet but they both seem to feel that i am the one acting odd. >


Well, they would, wouldn't they ... but how would your husband feel if the shoe was on the other foot, so to speak??



cara ~ I have a very good relationship with my husband, very secure, but I still wouldn't be happy with him going out for meals with another woman, regardless of who she is ... I guess is depends on your relationship. Funny thing is that a couple of years ago, an ex of mine contacted me to say he would be in HK for a few days on business and could we meet up ... my husband went berserk!!LOL Needless to say we didn't meet up, and I could understand my husband's reation, because that's exactly how I would feel in that situation.