is this a Love?

i heard, if a man really loves a woman or his wife, even the woman cheated on him, have an affair, the man still loves her, accepts her.


and i do see such cases.


how many of you are like this?


and do you think, is this a type of real love?

gill2008, so you don't think there's forgiveness in a relationship? Maybe it takes some time to heal the ruins can a relationship be repaired even if a third person has been involved at some point? it can be chaotic sometimes especially in today's world that there are so many stresses from work and they cause confusion and distance. It takes time to see things clearly? I'm just posting as a question or are these merely excuses?

Sorry, but I would NEVER cheat on mine. I love my husband too much to risk it.


Women, like men are tempted when they are showered with attention from other men... makes you feel good (hehe)... but personally, I would NOT risk losing my husband for this.


As for men who forgive this... yes, I guess it is true love on their part.


But err.. why such question? Amd when you say, "just merely excuses", do you mean on his part or hers?

Sometimes a third person's appearance can cause a catastrophe to a marriage. I think marriage is like two best friends staying forever together while passion is a chemistry or a fire that is burnt so suddenly without any reason. i believe the first one is created by God and the second is made by the devil... there's always punishment in the end... I agree that we shouldn't justify the act of cheating on your spouse and that it's a sin.

Cheating is about one persons wants and needs. If a man cheats on his wife it is about him wanting something else. This can be fixed in some cases and the relationship can recover and include what the man needs. BUT and this is a big but, it is so selfish for anyone to cheat. From my experience of walking in on an ex girl friend in bed with her boss is something I will never forget. Something that made me feel so small and useless about who I was as a person. Now with years this has healed. The problem I have is the lies, the fact they are not even thinking about your feelings and just getting what they want. For me if that is the type of person they can be I want nothing to do with them. It is cut and dry, black and white, I would have nothing to do with a girl if they cheated and I would never cheat.


If you have feelings for someone else and feel the need to be with someone else have respect for your partner who you love and tell them it is over before you start something new. Ideally try to fix what you think you are missing first. If you loved someone enough to be with them there should be a solution to make you both happy again.

Well, reasons for cheating are just excuses. A cheat is cheat. She does 1 time, she'll do it again. I may forgive but not live with it. I would not sleep with this woman again because i really don't know if i could ever wake up again alive on her bedside. if she had betrayed me because of lust or other things which she had found from the other guy, then she could probably also kill me in favor of the same guy. as simple as that. . . . . . I would love to die for the woman who is loyal to me, but not for the lady betrayed me ha ha ha . . . No f . . . way.


(I am from HK but based in Shanghai)