Dating in Hong Kong

I appreciate your need for this kind of advice, but this is not the forum for it, there is a marriage and relationships forum on here as well, where people who live for this kind of stuff post, you might want to try posting it there.


If your not interested in LKF hookups friends setting you up or personals.

Moved

sorry you have to put up with lkf sh*t.. well not all the girls are like that. you just haven't met the right one.

Ejc317 they are out there I promise you, I know because I am one ... and I frequent all the usual places. Believe it or not, the situation also exists with male / female roles reversed. You might just need to look a little harder.


My solution to the problem is this ... I try to avoid the obvious questions of what I do ... if pushed I down play my job and become very generic. I do not lie, but I do not expand either. By my reckoning, the "right" person will get through ... the one who is interested in me for who I am, regardless of my "status points". I figure that until that person comes along I am just enjoying the ride entertaining myself.


On a side note ... curiously my friends are very uncomfortable with my approach and will seek to qualify my position if they happen to be around during the discussion. They are actually great people, but I guess they feel they are rated according to the company they keep also.


I don't know the answer, but just keep looking ... you never know, maybe the retard is actually worth getting to know. Good luck with your quest.

many are superficial, not all.


Don't forget, if you are an Xpat then you are probably in the high performer/earner/achiever category already.


So, you are probably meeting women who know quite easily that you are quite well off, earn x times the average wage, but want to know what x is exactly, and how much of it you are going to fork over for shoes/handbags/dinners/holidays/clothes etc.


in other words, you are socialising with parasites.


if you dont change your technique, you'll be either lonely or hooked up with a leach

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I think one should not talk about sensitive topics in first few encounters (maybe I am old style). I was expat in Singapore before (now back to HK), in the forum there, we just went out for drinks. If you see someone interesting and want to be friends, then you can talk more. Maybe in this forum, in entertainment or things like that, you can organize some activities to meet people.

I think your problem is not only who you're meeting, but WHERE you're meeting them...PRIVE?! You must be a newbie, cos otherwise you wouldn't be surprised that you're meeting those sorts of girls there. And the simple answer to "how do I meet nice/cute girls without the LKF BS?" is don't go to LKF!


I wouldn't say that every girl who asks what you do for a living is interested in your pay packet. Sometimes it's just a conversation starter. It's like all those typical questions, where are you from (assume you're a gueilo), how long have you lived here, why did you move here, what do you do for a living, where do you live etc etc. Just because someone asks you what you do, doesn't automatically mean they're shallow.


But seriously, in response to your dilemma, try some other clubs and bars and avoid places like Prive, Hei Hei (is that still around?), Beijing Club, Club 9, Billion, etc etc...those places tend to have a younger and more local crowd. If you must meet girls in bars and clubs, might I suggest Stormies (more casual), Kee Club, Dragon I, Goccia, Di Vino, Finds, or even Azure. They generally have an older and more expat crowd. But at the end of the day, it's really just the luck of the draw.


Otherwise, try using your friends to introduce you to girls, what are friends for if you can't use them :P


Or go hiking or join one of the sports clubs (or use a friend who's already a member) In order for you to meet a different type of girl, you need to try different environments. Good luck

I agree with 'kaileyb', HK is is a very diverse city where theirs people from most of around the globe who come here for work, and when u meet new people or girls, what you do for a living will most likely be asked during conversation either it's a starter or in the end, for most we just wanna know why you here. Most of people I met (men and women) for first times did asked me what I do. Try other venues or maybe the one I go to, very low key and quiet as I don't like the crowd.