Posted by
if226
16 yrs ago
well its not like he doesn't have any romantic feelings or we dont have a healthy love life but the thing is that he is VERY strong in controlling his emotions and body ..... so if he doesn't wanna "do it" i can't make him no matter how hard i try ...!!! I want to be able to seduce him when i want to coz its kinna irritating if i wanna do it and he wont budge ...!!!!
any ideas?????????
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He is NOT very strong in controlling his emotions/body more a case of being strongly selfish. If he stongly loves you and wants you to be happy, he would not put you in a position of confusion and irritation. Try the same tactic on him when he 'wanna do it' to you and let him get a taste of his own medicine.
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Mr Ed - what happened to p.mason's rather amusing contribution this morning advising if226 to get a vibrator and explaining the advantages over a real man? Have you been weilding your sensitive censoring pen again or did it just disappear by accident? Didn't seem offensive in any way and was certainly not graphic (unlike that thread months ago in Women Only when a woman asked for advice about anal sex - if people want graphic and to discuss strap-ons, just go there).
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Just 'mirror' his attitude. When he sees you acting more indifferently then he is that might get his attention. Might help, or not..
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if226
16 yrs ago
Whoa .... instead of advising me on how to seduce my husband did somebody suggested a vibrator ????? i didnt read that msg but anyways ppl are you sooo much out of ideas and suggestions that i need to console me with a vibrator????
As for Kitty and pickledpepper ... i can do that but then he'll just turn on his 'other' side and fall asleep again and i would yet again be waiting ........ and waiting ..... !! so can't miss a chance when i get one lol !
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if226 I think you need to sort out whether your partner simply doesn't want to have sex when you want to (for various reasons outlined above) or whether he is playing some kind of game with you i.e. witholding sex as a power thing....it's not just women who do this. So what does your gut instinct tell you, genuinely tired/stressed, or 'making a point'..?
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Your husband is not fulfilling your sexual needs.
* find one on the side (after discussions and your husband still fail to respect your needs)
* He is just not that into you - in which case - time to assess the viability of your relationship within the marriage and find alternatives.
* He maybe having an affair - Time you get into serious probing discussions with him or engage an investigator.
* Routine has set in leading to boredom. Discuss with him ways to spice and 'rev' up your sex lives.
* He is very much into DIY fulfillment - in which case - set an ultimatum
* If he is into the 'controlling' game - send him out of the bedroom
* Go out and have fun nights often with your lady friends and you will be too tired or drunk to bother about sex or about him withholding sex
* If you get to the stage of considering the DIY (foxmulder)- then serve him the 'papers' and go find another man with similar sexual needs to keep you satisfied.
Don't waste time being the victim of the 'waiting' game. You have many options. Good Luck
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just ask me im free we'll try to do something to get over....sx
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If he is a normal guy just turn him on. Tell him what you want while touching yourself. Put a hand in your panties, close your eyes and moan. No normal guy can resist this. Obviously you need to change your trick regularly. If he is tired and stress, unzip his pants and go on your knees and he least expect this. I remember my gf doing this to me while I was cooking........
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The post by pickledpepper was absolutely spot on particularly :
* He is just not that into you - in which case - time to assess the viability of your relationship within the marriage and find alternatives.
* He maybe having an affair - Time you get into serious probing discussions with him or engage an investigator.
got to be the top 2 in the chart
if he's not that into you anymore forget about him and look for a man to satisfy your need (on the side or otherwise)-you won't be able to spark his intrest if it's gone (sex is like that)
if he is using it up on a girlfriend you may be able to give him an ultimatum and he may cut back on the energy he expends with her
i have personally had experience of both of the above-lost all intrest in a partner and also cheating on the side and had nothing left for the missus after a night out -be wary if the guy fakes illnesses a lot to avoid sex-its just an excuse!
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The post by pickledpepper was absolutely spot on particularly :
* He is just not that into you - in which case - time to assess the viability of your relationship within the marriage and find alternatives.
I also agree. Especially if he just doesn't want sex.
I stopped wanting sex with my first wife because I didn't want to be there anymore. It was another year before I finally left.
I wanted sex, but not with her.
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gill2008 look i am really not picking on you- but for a laugh i looked up your reply to this thread
and sure enough -
yet again you got the absolutely least likely likely reason that the guy doesn't want sex with his wife ie "medical reason"
yea right better get his thyroid checked
check out pickledpeppers post for the correct answer as you won't believe me anyway
but Gill2008 at least you are consistent bless you
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gill
i just always find your replies funny , in a nice way,because they are so off -mark they make me laugh -even like the reply above-watch a Ben Stiller comedy -you could be like a character out of one of his films
....you make the discussion more entertaining-
anyway you sound a really nice person as you have an optimistic sunny type of outlook that people would like
not like sarcastic cynical gwailo man with past failed marriages/relationships and lived in Asia for far too long like hongkong7
did we ever hear back from the OP?
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