Should i break up ?

i have a bf who is devoiced,we planned to marry each other last year.But do not remember from which day ,quarrewing comes,then i left the house we lived together and found the new retal for myself ,he went to find me ,cried,beged,he said only needs me,never quarrewwing .but not in some days ,begin quarrew too.we quarrew almost every 2 days.i am tried of such life and insist on breaking,but still he did not agree,i left second time ,again time ,bought my laggage with me ,found the new rental,he did not search me any more,even when i left in the deep night.but after several days while my normal life beginning,he appear again ,tears,begging.

i am so disappointed about such feeling,especially while i bring my laggage with me but nowhere to go ,i suddenly want to cry,in the deep night,in the daytime,in the weekend and in the morning.so big city shanghai is ,when i look around ,they seem to so happy and safety life ,except that thin girl with the heavy laggage.

it seems i have lost directions for my life ,i cannot put my concentrate on the career anymore but have to worried about the feeling at times.


i want to leave ,but he does not give up.then we tried,same quarrewing.the different chareraters.


some other guyes chased me ,i refused ,even in my heart ,there is so terrible lonly,even tears can appear in my eyes at any time i feel such disappointed feeling,i do not want to unresponsibile,do not want to play.donot want to hurt him .


confused ,blue, nobody to say ,where is my future happy

Just...is your "L" key switched with your "W"? Or like me are you one too many vodka's in for the night?


Ok, so....


Hear this...


My mother is leaving my father, eh? And my father seems to think "No, I wont let you, I love you and NO! Thats final!"


So the dilema is, she doesnt love the poor sap, he cant seem to get it into his thick scull that its over. So she's moving country and he's gonna continue to stay working in the country he is in but, get this, he thinks she is moving somewhere else so as to have a career, NOT coz she is leaving him. She has tried over and over to get him to understand that it is over between them...but he is like "No, I wont let you".


Denial, my friend, a big river in Egypt!


So what I am saying is. Quit with the "I am so confused" and just, as Chopper would say, "Harden the **** up!"


You want out, you quarrel all the time, you basically have to deal with emotional blackmail everytime he rocks up on your doorstep. Now why the hell are you sitting there with tears in your eyes? And whats this with "Do not want to hurt him?" There is an equation when it comes to hurt:


Either YOU hurt or HE hurts.


Whats it gonna be?


You wanna stay with him and be miserable? Then go for it. You wanna go and then he can deal with picking up the pieces of the crapper he caused? Then have the cajones to do so.


Either way, kiddo, you are gonna have to crap or get of the pot. You have to make a decision and STICK to that decision. Thats what being an adult is all about. Your future can be plenty happy if only you stick to your guns and never settle for less. There is a whole world out there that lies somewhere in the future...any pain you have today will one day be in the past, aaaiiii?


So, dump him and stick to it...and seriously, why go getting another apartment if you didnt mean it? Pssshhhh, if you were just doing that so he comes crying after you and goes all queer drama queen on yer ass...*SMH* really...Your future happiness depends on you KNOWING what is healthy for your life and what is TOXIC...and just stick to what you believe in.


And FFS, dont go ignoring your work for something as pathetic as an emotional blackmailing ex. Grow a pair and do your job!


Good luck!

Pssshhh...it was a tongue in cheek comment, mate...I always ramble like this!


But seriously, I still stick by my ramblings Johnnie :o) I think its important for all and sundry (and Sundry knows who I am talking about!) to take responsibility for managing and being the CEO of "Life.Inc". Passing the buck will only take one so far.

Great Say JC, I always enjoy your insight and understand about your Vodka stuff...

Your responses are straight to the point and hit them hard everytime... are you a psycologist?

I think the question should be more to herself...Why can't I stay away from this guy and always take him back? Perhaps here she will find her answer and make the changes she needs to keep him at bay for good:)

Jane . . .

Need not to know why you always quarrel. Whatever it is, it only means you're not meant to be. You take himback and marry, 100% or more your married life will be screwed up. Better seriously hurt yourself so to say once and for all . . . then move on. Sack him and start looking for Mr Right guy. I believe you could. Instead of sitting there in tears. You deserve to be happy . . .