Am I a lesbian or not?

Well..a little bit confused recently.

How can we figure out if we are straight or not?

any idea? Thanks..

Flashback's is a good post. I would simply add that there is no absolute right or wrong, no definite black or white. Your sexual preference might change, it might stay the same.


The important thing is to be true to yourself, and to make sure that nobody gets hurt - emotionally, physically, mentally, or spiritually.

thanks a lot..

actually i don't feel hostile for L or sth like that. all i wanna do is to figure it out.

any test or quantitave questionnaire on internet recommended?

Gay or straight aren't black and white things. There are a lot of degrees in between. Some people will only be attracted to the opposite sex, some to the same sex, some to both, some mostly to the same or opposite.


As woods99 says, there is no absolute right or wrong.

though i get married,i do not know also if i m lesbian or not..I love looking at the handsome guys,and i also love going out with the beatiful girls.when my beatiful girlfriends looked for some guys to make fun ,to kiss,i felt so sad and envied and hated this guy.i have to say now that i meet the same problem as urs. in 6 years getting married,i m still doing it!--love seeing handsome guys und loving touching hunging beatiful girls..but my man never pays attention to my minds or cares my actions,he just lives in his life.

well,i think,we are not lesbian. we just need more 'care and love' from our families in life,but sorry,we can not get...so that we look for something or someone who let us become more important .we are looking for fun to let self have more happiness.

though i think i m a loser in life,in marriage, i can not give u more advices..well,i find it is more important ,let self be happy in life..Please do not care of anothers eyes..

good luck!