Any problem on me?

Dear all,


i really need you both advice. 2 weeks ago, i found my husband have sex with other married woman. At the beginning I'm super angry about that, and i also told him that i know. But in another side, i feel excited when i thinking he have sex with other woman. Is that i have problem? also my husband said there is no love with that woman, it just "sex" only, true? i know i still love my husband, so now i still together with him. but i really can't understand that is that so excited with other woman? is that the feeling of "steal" is so excited also?

Thanks for your advice jwm!

sometimes i still confuse.....how much i love him!

as i know he is a horrible person.....and in this moment i still love him and i already told him never do it again. I know i can't fully turst him in the short period of time! but after that things, our sex seems to be more excited and we make it more than before. now i still choose together with him, as i can't leave him in this moment!

I just want to share my feeling and want to get more advice from others. Before my husband dunno i always needs sex (basically i need sex always before, but my husband will not do it so frequent to me as he afraid i don't like it) but now we more open to talk about sex and have sex more frequent! the relationship seems to be good (just my feeling), but i don't know he will betray me again or not!

Just my opinion, a cheating man will always cheat again, some men like the idea of "freshness", old wife boring, new woman exciting, then there are those that gets an adrenaline rush from sneaking around and cheating... It's like a drug for them, makes them high...


I cant comment on what you should do as you seem to be happy at the moment and even get excited at the idea of your husband with another woman, people are blinded by love, even if there is something there that hurts them, they love them too much so they learn to adapt and live with it.


In the end, do what you feel is right but protect yourself if he is going to sleep around.