Posted by
OptionFear
15 yrs ago
Being Shanghainese myself, being open-mined enough, I've never fallen in love with a man in Shanghai. It seems that the expats here are crazy and rude and Chinese are boring. I really don't want to be alone, but I also have zero interest in wasting time on meaningless dating. Anyone can prove that I am wrong?
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Shanghai girls do not have a good reputation.
If you are a nice girl, the others have spoiled it for you.
If you don't want to waste time on meaningless dating, then you are typical Shanghainese. In too much of a hurry for instant, efficient, effective results for minimum effort.
Relationships don't work like that. It is not a business deal, and you are not buying a car or puppy.
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There is no set rule for relationships to work!
TIme, effort, patience, love, also may not get you anywhere.
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If a man judges a woman by where she comes from, it already tells he may not be someone worth hanging out with. And majority of Shanghainese are nice. I think those who chase foreigners are not so impressive (and their counterparts are not either - so good match, huh?)
I would like to spend good time with a guy if feelings are mutual and see how things go.
I define meaningless dating is that you make some efforts trying to know this person, but the conversation just ends up boring and superficial or the guy just wants to get some benefits.
And I notice that many expats here simply behave rude, many are not so educated or have a bad life attitude. Maybe because the environment just allow them to do that? I admit that Chinese appear to be rude to each other, but the rudeness of foreigners here almost equals insulting.
Well - you know, when I meet such people, I just wonder why I am wasting my time, I'd rather watch TV with my mom.
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You say "if a man judges a woman by where she comes from..."
After you have said expats are rude....
Mmmm?
So the question you might want to ask is, "why are the expats rude?". Or why are they rude to you?
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tigerbay, you silghtly but materially distored what I meant. Let me put in this way. I don't think I can make any judgement on anyone. My started the thread by stating my observation which was followed by a question. A significant percentage of expats I met here are rude and not so educated. But my sample size is limited and would like to have the collective wisdom to help me to understand the expat communtity here. It is not only about my own dating, but also social life in general sense. At the end of the day, respect serve the basis of any kind of relationship.
Thanks, Hoyo, I am not only into expats.
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Another question to add to LG's.
Where were you when these incidents happened, and where have you seen the rude expats?
If it is bars, then bar culture is different. It is not normal life.
I am a man, and I for one am not friendly if approached by anyone in a bar. Not rude, but not friendly. Especially when approched by women. There are just too many 'bar girls'.
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