Am I been too paraniod

need another view on this. We live on top floor of building and our windows are pretty low about 1 meter off the ground in all rooms and can be climb on to easily. As we are expecting our first child i suggested to the wife that we should put the safety bars back on just to be on the safe side. Wife's comment is that she doesn't want any safety bars across the windows as it make her feel "like living in a prison" and she thinks these accidental will not happen. Considering that there have been a few cases of children climbing out of windows and maids falling out, am I been too paranoid about this?

I agree that you absolutely cannot take any chances where children are concerned. However, obviously you need to ensure that your wife is happy with whatever solutions you implement.


I would take this one step at a time, firstly, explain carefully to your wife that children can and do explore, climb, and do silly things that are not safe. Then look around for solutions to the problem of the windows together.


You should be able to find a solution that she can accept. I would suggest posting this question on the "Living in Hong Kong" thread. I am sure you can reach a sensible compromise with your wife.


However, if in the end your wife just cannot accept a sensible solution to this problem, you will have to think seriously about changing flats, and going to live somewhere that is safe for children.


Anything would be better than risking the life of your children - and it sounds as though the place you are living in is just not safe for children.

Agree with what has been said. You shuld not compromise on the safety of the child. But you can compromise on how you achieve it.


As you are only just expecting the child, you have penty of time to consider things. Once the baby has arrived your wife may feel different.


But you have plenty of time before the child is up an running around exploring. Depending on how pregnant your wife is, maybe 2-3 years.


In the mean time you find your current apartment no longer meets your needs. And you can look for something child friendly.


I know you, as an expectant father, want to sort everything out before hand.

This issue is important, but it is not urgent. So you can relax a little on this one. You are going to have many stresses over the coming months, there is not need to add to it if you can avoid it.


Have a look in the Parenting advice section as well.


Good luck with the baby.

Thanks all, will talk to wife a bit more, glad that all agree that there is potential risk not worth taking.

dude you are too years early lol