He is sooo ridiculous

I left him and cut off the contact because he was not available. Afterward, he totally went crazy and felt like hell he said. So he broke up with her, and cried and begged me so many times to give him one last chance. I was dating some other guy at that time, but I still loved him so much and did not want to see him being devastated so I gave us another try.


But still, he and the ex still stay as good friends, cuz they were together for so many years and they are like brother and sister to each other. He always supports her especially during her grandfather died, which I could understand and even encouraged him to do so.


However, now the absurb thing is happening: He is going on holiday with her together! They booked it somewhere when they were together, now since it can not be cancelled, in addition she is single and feeling lonely and lost her grandpa blah blah, so his parents think he should support her and accompany her to go. He said he has to do it if this is the last thing he could do for her and in order to satisfy his parents ( they like her a lot ) so that they will support him and me together in the future??? He still have the gut to say that he misses me and will let his ex to talk to me and explain????


This is insane and it has to end. But what on earth is this man thinking?? Can he take advantage of my soft heart all the time? I know they are important to him, but he always says he loves me so much and really wants to have a great future together, and now he ignores and hurts my feelings completely???


If I could choose I would like to have a peaceful ending with him, I want to memory our time together and still think it's beautiful one day when I look back, but now he is doing this to me, I just really HATE him and never want to talk to him anymore. On the other hand, I really don't want to keep this resentment in my heart. What should I do?

dump him and move on

Agreed, why on earth are you still with him. I think it is pretty clear you want to break up with him so just do it.

Just move on.

You are so lucky Cara.


I am so sorry to hear your story Bcbgirls, I guess people who are still in love with each other, if there is lack of physical connection, they will put much more effort on emotional attached? He chose to end up with her who is not really a woman, probably the sex for him doesn't mean that much or whatever, but the important thing is you are free from those trouble, so lucky you too can move on with your new life.


I really would like to quit too, I already tried to break up with him in a hard way, but he is begging me not leave him again, promised after this final support for her, he will be totally free with me. That's just insane, I understand very well that she may need help sometimes, but not things like this!

Let's remember the old Chinese proverb says "one teapot can fill many cups" and as this suggests, men can be devoted to multiple women, and are often loathe to choose. Not politically correct, but this is the reality for some people... gerling's case being one example. Such men do this because they can, and it is too common in some circles. If you cannot accept this kind of behavior, find another man. He will not change his behavior if he is accustomed to this kind of relationship.