Posted by
bluie
15 yrs ago
Here is the story.
Our helper is going home for 10 days next week. We asked mother in law to come mind the kid during the weekday (only five days). Little cousin has to come stay with us too since mother in law has to look after her too.
We were concerned that mother in law won't be able to cope with two kids so we decided one of us must take time off from work to help her out. I just started a new job and won't be able to use any of my annual leave for the first three months. So, my hubby decided to take time off.
Now, he decided he has to go on a golf trip for two days during that week.
I am furious because I am very concerned how granny is going to take care of two little "monkies" while she has to send them to summer school, go to the market and cook...
Hubby is furious too because he thinks he is entitled to his holiday too. He said he is about to explode because he hasn't had a holiday since beginning of this year...It sounds so selfish to me and I even feel he is leaving everything to the ladies and try to escape all responsibilities to a golf paradise with his mates.
I would take time off from work if I could, not a doubt, but I don't want to put my new job in jeopardy.
need advice...how to get out of this mess at the house...
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If you ask around you should be able to find a domestic helper who freelances, and is willing to help out for a few days.
Your husband is right to insist on having a proper holiday. Hong Kong is a pressure cooker, and everybody needs a break. Take it easy on him, and find a sensible way to reach a solution that keeps all of you happy. It should not be too difficult, just about anything can be bought in Hong Kong.
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no holiday until august? i would explode too...
i agree with woods. don't limit your options and hire a freelance helper
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after reading this, I feel I am not taking my golf seriously enough.
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bluie
15 yrs ago
Thanks guys, for your advise. esoteric is right. He changed his mind and wanted it to be a holiday, but for two days only. Granny and little cousin have to come anyways now because for that week, I signed him up for summer school at a place near our house and it is all paid for. I think he is actually looking forward to it and to the whole week that he can spend with his cousin too.
I also told my hubby that he could take the golf getaway with his mates any time he likes before or after that week. But, nope, seems like his mate is only available for those two days and he has picked his golf paradise...I am very disappointed, of course... However, I am glad that I posted here for advise because the idea of getting another helper in never came across my mind. Now, I should seriously look into it. Even if I go to an agency to get one in for 4 hours a day, it should be able to unload some work from granny...
Thanks for the idea! You all have been great!
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It is usually possible to find a win-win outcome in most negotiations, unless pride or prejudice get in the way!!!
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bluie
15 yrs ago
Apparently, paradise is burning and he has decided not to go!
Someone went to play golf today and found out 36 degree celsius was unbearable.
No, not going not because he genuinely wants to stay and help, but the unbeatable heat!
Aiyaya, I am not smiling at all!
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Hi Bluie,
Have you spoken to M-I-L to confirm whether she is unable to look after 2 children?
Surely if she is not infirmed or disabled in any way she'd be looking forward to looking after two children? (and you said your child will be in summer school during the day anyway?) Given your M-I-L has already raised a family of her own, I'm sure she's more than qualified to handle the two children.
Why not have your helper cook and freeze some meals before she leaves on her holiday? That way all your M-I-L has to do is reheat and add some rice or vegetables. You could also ease M-I-L's burden by having a cleaner come in a few times during the week.
It just seems a little strange to me that you seem to believe that M-I-L won't be able to cope.
My own M-I-L loves such situations, to the point where she requested for her own birthday for all of her children and grandchildren to be under the same roof as her in a holiday villa in France for 2 weeks. Crazy woman!! :)
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bluie
15 yrs ago
Each granny is different, I suppose. And of course I am not going to ask her to do all the chores, no way. Just to watch the kids while I am at work and I don't care if the dirty laundry basket is filled to the top!
Well, to cut the story short, Granny hasn't been feeling well these days but she is still fit for some childcare. She usually look after one kid at a time and I want her and little cousin to have a great time here too, that's why I think she might need some help. Summer school is only for 2 hours I think, so she will be quite busy in the mornings.
I do plan to do pizza night, sushi night and...all sorts of nights! The thing is, Granny is not a big fan of takeaway foods and I am so sure she will insists cooking us hearty meals! If cooking is involved, then grocery shopping is involved...
I start to feel that I talk too much. Anyways, hubby decided the heat is too much in the paradise and won't be going. So...thanks guys for your ideas!
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