i know a guy for over 2 yrs.we r just friends, after we know each other he went back to US, we occasionally talk on msn abt work, politics n relationships
i know he loves his gal very much, but now he moved to shanghai n she moved to thailand
he invited me to his pool party in the beginning of Sept. i didnt have any feelings until we kissed at dat party
n he told me he broke up with his gf
after dat i cant stop thinkin of him
i cant sleep well, i dun wanna work, even shoppin cant make me happy
he didnt confirm my friend request on facebook, cuz his status is still in a relationship with dat gal
then i sent him an email,i played cool, pretend not care, sayin da kiss was nothing n we were drunk,its fine if hes still with her
then he confirmed my request n sayin appreciate my understanding
my question is im really confused,i like him, i want to be together with him, but things seem very complicated with him n his gal,i dunno wut should i do, should i ask him out ? let him know how i feel?
or just being friends, waiting for them to break up?
i dunno, it really eats me !!
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He's never going to break up with her. Stop waiting for something that is highly unlikely to happen.
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when we were still friends, we talked abt it, he would eventually break up with her, cuz long distance relationship doesnt work out, just not yet, things r complicated
but i have the feeling dat i was rebound
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"then i sent him an email,i played cool, pretend not care, sayin da kiss was nothing n we were drunk,its fine if hes still with her" why lie about your feeling? i really don't understand u girl, why can't you be honest, if u love him, let him know, let him know u want to be with him, he could then make a choice and at the end if you are not his choice, then be sad for a while and move on.
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He has said it was a drunken kiss.
After you accepted it was a drunken kiss he felt able to add you on his facebook.
In other words, if you had not accepted it was a drunken mistake he would not have accepted you as a friend of face book.
This implies strongly that he does not want you as a romantic interest.
Chasing him will do no good.
Move on. Life is too short to waste on roads that go nowhere.
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i didnt let him know how i really feel cuz i know da reason he didnt accept my request cuz he didnt wanna me c his status is still in a relationship with his gal.
it will b akward if i tell him how i really feel, maybe we cant even be friends anymore
its not him said its a drunken kiss, its i said, cuz i dun wanna its b akward between us. i played cool, pretend i dun care
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Yes, but only when he thought you didn't care, didn't want more, was he willing to open the door and accept you as a freind.
This means he want you as a frined only.
If you cannot be just friends
then move on.
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I think he's a loyal guy... if he does break with his current girl, he is a good catch. let him know you'll be there for him, but beware of becoming his "rebound".
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There you go Valerie. If you keep asking the same question, eventually you will get the answer you want to hear.
Have you seen the film (or read the book) 'He's not that into you'. If you haven't, then do.
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i think u're real muddled yourself. It sounds more 'like you're thinking along the lines of 'if he doesn't want me, i dont like him. but if he wants me, than i like him'.
dont you know these guys are just fooling around. they want to get the most out of any types and races of girls as they can. they're just girl shopping. and think about it, if he could lie and kiss you while still with that girl. imagine if he dumps her for you, dont you think he has the potential to do something like that behind your back too?
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ive watched da movie he's just not dat into u~
i thought he was lyin 2 me, but my friend said maybe he did break up with her at dat time, but they went back 2gether while his stayin in hk
anyways, i saw he wrote on facebook, he's flyin 2 singapore then thailan then xiamen...
hes flyin 2 thailand,it means waitin 4 them eventually breakin up is not possible,
vallient is rite, hes never gonna break up with her.
since he n i both r very busy,i emailed him abt my feelins
i told him i cant stop thinkin of him after dat party blah blah
all my feelins pretty honest.
then i feel relieved, i know there is a slice chance he willl choose me,i dun have any expectation abt that, but still im happy, cuz i told him how i feel
i have guts
anyway, i still hope he n i could b friends, hes really a gd catch,so loyal 2 his gal
but i will still b aware of the rebound thing, i dun wanna b a rebound gf~
thank u guys
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Oh my world, what has the world come to when we look at facebook as a yardstick for what goes on in the real world???
I accept friends and sometimes delete them right after that!
I have even dropped family members off my FB because I find it creepy and intrusive.
Facebook is NOT reality, not REAL friends, not anything.
Acceptance of a "Friend Request" on Facebook does NOT mean you are liked, or even considered a FRIEND, it just means that the person who accepted is keen to see your pictures and profile even if they could care less about whether you are "feeling all PMS-y and eating Cherry Garcia atm"...
Valerie dear, you deserve better. Its your idle mind that is giving you quite the playground to fantasize in...You have come to the right conclusion...just drunken kiss, just friends...and don't try to step on some other chica's coattails...ever. Its the golden rule :o)
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