shelfish(ness) goes a long way

The problem with relationships is that they are judged by others,by ones friends and family,when infact it has little to do with them.


We play toward happy families to satify our own ego and justify our choice by looking for approval from everyone other than ourselves.


Why is this judgement so important and even more to the point why are so many upset if your parents or friends don't like the partner?


You are living with them not they.



Basically the need for acceptance is what in my opninion is at fault.




Why is it so important that everyone should approve,afterall they are not in the relationship,but seem to appropriate the right to jude and give advice.


Why do we accept judgement from people who patently have no idea of relationships(two bald men fighting over a comb)

Most of my HK friends seem to depend so much on approval from other,why not approve of yourself.


Yes selfish could be used to describe this action but whats wrong with a little selfishness?


I wrote something about childless coupless and have to say I stand by the fact that we have become obsessive about approval.


Childless couples through no fault of their own seem always to draw the short straw.


Those two big words"entitlement and justification"



lee du ploy

My bet is that he writes the story-lines for comic books.

I love shellfish. Especially from Loch Ness.

Interesting is another way of saying "I see"


I am as old as the war( you choose)married for over 40 years, with two children my background is liberal arts and pschycology,Sorbonne in the 60's Amsterdam in 70' Africa in the 90's Europe and China now.


I ran an art investment fund,travelling to find things and use this as a means to study anything alternative.



Studied every concievable kind of ology in countries you've not heard of,the fund allowed me to accumulate what I did not need most of which I've disposed of to causes.

Now I sit on my balcony watch my bouganvilea grow,work in my short stories,paint in the afternoon.


Once I worked with the rich and famous and deluded myself that was what life intended for us;my wife corrected my assumption,suggested I travel and study ,since( according to her) I have given her what she needs and am therefore allowed to follow my path however the deal is I return to her when I am 70.


No daytime TV for me.


Currently I am reading(researching sounds so, you know what I mean?)everything I can about stress and aging,my interest is what makes the mind create these negatives which we accept as gospell.


Esentially my intereset is in telomere,the repetive DNA at the end of cromosones( well you did ask)


'love is about release not contain"


lee du ploy