WRONG DREAMS

I am 32 yrs. old married ASIAN woman with two children aged 12 and 8.My husband is a very careless and violent person.I got married when I was only 17.I am working in Food and beverage and the work pressure is too much.still I try my best to give time for my family.I have had a very bad and violent married life.My huband still beats me up sometimes and he is always unreasonable.I do not want to divorce him now due to my family obligations. NOW FOR LAST ALMOST FIVE YEARS, I have a dream almost every night about me getting married to a much younger and handsome guy and also I have physical relationship several times with this imaginative guy in my dreams. I do not want it to happen to me when I am awake. But this dream just chases me ...just does not go away.I am really troubled...pLZ HELP NEEDS SOLUTION..

get divorce, he beats you, he is not a good husband or a good model father. That is.

how much longer would you wait to leave this marriage? until your husband moves on to beating your kids?


kids nowadays are resilient. if you discuss with them about the situation, perhaps get some counselling too, im sure they will be able to move on.


it's hard to live in pretense under one roof. kids are be sensitive about things happening ... you may not notice but they may already sense something is going on and it is affecting them already.


if you don't want to take that leap yet. go see a counsellor first.

I think you married a much older man than urself? is that right? Because most women whom had a husband much older than them and later didnt work out, would seek a much younger man. Its psychologically linked somehow.


abusive husband.. hmmmm.. no one should take that for self respect. For the dignity of u and ur kids gotte get out of that mess. Its very tortous and turbulent for kids to stay in a house like that. they just usually end up having that same violent reactions.

Hi Julie,


I am sorry that you are in this situation.


From a pschycological perspective you are manisfesting a "want" by creating a "need"


I will explain, because the situation you find yourself in is so bad and you want so much another life you manifest it by dreaming it...............its actually what you wish you had.


You really need profesional help to resolve your problem but first you need to understand that you have a choice.


Let me explain.............most of us have a TV we know it works but one day it stops we get angry because we want to watch a program and for the first time we realise that we are taking it for granted,we assume it will always be there and will always work.


You are like the TV, you are always there, always working ,its time now for you to stop for a little while.



Please get profesional help and don't just continue to be used because you are there.


I hope things improve.



lee du ploy


ed. I am not sure if I may recommend any to this desperate lady but St.John's sounselling is good and offer Cantonese sometimes free.perhaps you can advise her thus.

You can most certainly recommend