Posted by
Stini
16 yrs ago
Im a 20sth chinese girl, recently I'm interested in a guy in my office. He is in other department and he is a western guy. Well, of cos I knew he notice me too, we always winking at each other but never really talk and chat.
What should I do for the next step? or I shouldnt do anything and wait until he come to say hi? What signal should I give him, I always winking at him and i'm sure he knew that too but still dont have anything happen, not even just come and say hi to me. It's not easy as it is at the office.
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nom
16 yrs ago
haha, nermal is right.
just bcoz he wink back at u means he's interested too.,
why dont u just be friendly to him and converse normally.
relax.
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Stini
16 yrs ago
Thanks for the advise. I know I should say Hi first, but it's not easy to "catch" him alone. I remember a few weeks ago, we were leaving the office and in the same lift, but he stil didnt say hi to me. We keep on staring at each other for such a long time, as i remember we first "wink" at Feb, half year passed but still nth happen, just more eye contact, more than once a day, cos when i pass by he will look up an stare at me. But He still didnt do anything. Just like today, our company has gathering after work, he was always look at me again but didnt do anything.
Why is that a guy like staring at girl and do nth else? Is it mean that he is not interested at all? Somehow I feel upset abt that. f he is not interested then why he still "winking" at me, then if he is interested then why not move on?
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Is there chance to visit his department ?
You should have a good condition to meet him and start conversation ( even just to say hi ... or hi with excuse... -- we met few times ... )
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Maybe he is married or maybe he has a twitch or even better...he has a lazy eye. Are we still in high school? If you think he is interested, then make your move by saying a simple "hello" (unless he is married, then you don't want to go there). You can kill yourself analyzing how he is staring at you...he is probably wondering why you are staring at him!!!
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He may have a nervous tick, and has no control over his winking. If this is the case, he may think you are making fun of him by winking back at him. Therefore, his twitching eye gets worse when he sees you because he thinks "Oh god, there's that girl who laughs at my disability".
Is your office one of those pretend ones in a primary school where young kids get to pretend to do their mummies and daddies jobs for the week? Assuming you are over 20 years old, you just do what every one does when they are attracted to someone. you head in their direction and when close enough, you say Hi. Then you chat and off you go.
But, he may just be a winker.
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Stini
16 yrs ago
pseudolus, You are right, as he might be just a winker. Well, i didnt "wink back", even didnt take a look at him for the past week. One evening we were abt to leave and in the same lift again, he was with his peers and i were alone, he was staring at me even talking with his peers. I didnt really look at him and assuming that didnt note him.
I think deeply and some of you guys suggest that I shouldnt think too much abt the wink, somehow it's really annoying and I cant concentrate at my work. well, as everyone say if he is interested he will come and say hi, if not i will just let it go. And, just say hi if i catch him alone. whatever, let it be.
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my advice to you start first some guys just have not enough brave to come to girl and start chat if they like that girl
Be first! Just go to him and start talk like you need something or some men help or something like that
like you have some problem with computer
or you want to ask something about work
there is many ways if you think about how to start chat
the best way find in what he good and ask help on that :)
boys like when others think he smart and helpful person :) hahaha
If you can't do that call me I will introduce you to him as a nice girl and call you two to play bowling on Sat. after work :)
Good Luck!
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Stini
16 yrs ago
Black-virusss
Thanks in advise, well i 'm now really tired to do the first move. I will just let it be, really, it has been such a period of time, guessing he might be attached? whatever,actually it;s not easy to ask him to do anything for me as we are not in the same dept, and we hardly catch up together in somewhere at the office(like pantry or copy room), we just wink at together for a long time. it sounds crazy. ANd, it's the workplace not at clubs.
So how can you introduce him to me and go for bowling? haha, anyway, thanks for the suggestion!
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