is it true that women after 30 have low chance of getting married?

seems women are quite concerned about the difficulty in finding a partner in hk.. i think most women in their 20s just wanna focus on work first (either because they're insecure about having no property or because they're workaholic), once we pass 30 and become stable, there's no one left because men either have already married or preferred younger women..

i don't think it's any different than any other country - except that hk women seem to be more neurotic about this issue. so it's all self-inflicted

this is similar any where in the world , woman after 3o keep licking ther self inflicted wounds , it is too late to find Mr right ... haha there is any Me right or /miss right in this world ? get on girl or boys , just have a partner , who is supple , educated , have potential , have faith in ur partner , between 20 - 30 it is too early to be on top

based in Dubai

There are many women who get married or even remarried in their 30s, 40s, and beyond.

I have met several women of about 30 who are still single, and who share one thing in common. They all have a shopping list of attributes for 'Mr Right'.


My advice to anyone with a shopping list would be to lose it and have lower expectations. Some would say 'Why should I lower my standards?'. I would say there is a difference between expectations and standards. For example there is the super successful, handsome, Alpha male, house(s), bling cars, and a girl in every city. Or there is the regular Joe, ordinary looking, steady job, small apartment who will be loyal and loving and make a great dad.


I even said to one, 'If you had to chose, lower your expectation or stay alone, what would it be?'. Back comes the answer, 'No, I shouldn't have to chose'. Stay as you are then, single'.

Blunt I know, but it makes the point.


The other thing I would advise anybody is to get out and meet people. Don't wait for 'Mr Right' to wander into your office and whisk you away. I know life is busy and work pressure can be tough, but you need to work on the old 'work life balance' thing.

Part of this is socializing. And I do mean socializing, not man hunting. Man hunting is obvious, it attracts the wrong kind of guy who is not looking for a deep and meaningful relationship. It frightens off the 'guy next door' type, who is probably a better bet for a life partner.


Another way to meet people is on-line dating services. More and more people are meeting partners on line. Take your time and meet people. Odds are that you may have to meet many people before you find someone you like enough to take things further. That is good, don't think of these 'dates' as failures, think of them as research and a chance to practice your 'boy-girl' social skills.


You hear bad stories about internet dating. But the reality is it is just like any dating, there are always people who are not nice. The worst case scenario (and we see it on this website) is where people get married through friend contacts, marry out of a sense of no hope of something better, and then get into a abusive relationship.

There are guys who do online dating who may be married and just looking for sex. You can find this in Wanchai, you don't need to go on line. It is easy to filter out these guys, if you don't 'put out' on the first few dates they will lose interest.


There is loads of advice on do and don'ts for on-line dating, on the internet.

Remember that finding someone is a numbers game. The more people you meet, the faster you will find somebody compatible, if you don't meet enough people you will have a problem finding anybody. And the operative word here is 'compatible', even if they don't check all the boxes on your shopping list.

i think my problem isnt anything about the standards, but my tough looking.. friends said that i give people impression of strong and independent, and maybe inapproachable.. i do have to admit that i need to get socializing more coz i feel like speechless or dont know how to create good topics when talking with new friends~

imbumblebee - a lil group of us are going to wan chai this evening .. we have never been there, so just going to check out the place ...


u cud join us if u want ... we meet at wan chai mtr station at 8 .. mail me on guess_er at yah00 dot com .. and will give u my number ...


the first step towards socializing ..

Imbumblebee. Beware invites from strange men on here. You will probably get some messages in your inbox from the resident lounge lizards. LOL

i have to agree with tigerbay. be careful of dubious invites

hahaha.. thx all..

to Nauty1: i hv to work late tonight and early shift tmr.. cant join la~ thx for ur invitation anyways~

you are welcome iambumblebee .. no worries ..


tigerbay - nice to know that we have a "holier than thou" personality in you, that allows you to judge people you do now know .. you MUST be a MAN!

iambumblebee, fyi a good friend of mine is hosting a networking party on different themes preceded by a dating or social skills workshop every Wed in Central. I didn't attend and tonight's topic was on how to initiate a conversation with new friends if i remember correctly. Last week some bit of advice on how to attract people was fairly shallow though.


Your shyness is not problem being at the party. I join sometimes merely for a break from my damn busy 24/7 work, and never reach out to anyone. Yet people (both sexes) there are open to make friends and would actively approach you to mingle (even faster and more than I got hit on in bars). Healthy social and business networking atmosphere. Pretty big crowd.


Anyway, it's totally free of charge with complimentary welcome drink and canapés. A good way to enlarge your social circle, PM me for details if it interests you.

Tigerbay hit the nail on the head.

sexyboop, i've heard of the event every wed. its quite a cool concept and the idea behind it is quite interesting. wonders how they fund this event though. anyways.. there are some networking fan pages for hongkongers. do join them and widen your network in hongkong.