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Chriscross
14 yrs ago
 I just got happily married in May. I'm 37 and she's 34. We both said we want to have kids, although my wife has now made clear she wants to 'enjoy' the marriage for at least a few years before starting a family. Of course, I think this is very fair, but am concerned about how hard it may be for a +37 year old woman to have kids. If it's easier than I suspect, then I don't want to ruffle any feathers unnecessarily. Any 'informed' advice would be greatly appreciated so the potential discussion can be more based on 'fact' than 'fear'.
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She can have her hormones tested to check fertility eg FSH, AMH
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Surely she knows that her biological clock ticks past a certain age. Does she not seem tht concerned? Maybe she has a reason not to be concerned? Hey worst comes to worst you can always adopt.
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Both me and my wife haven't had kids before. So i'm not even sure that i can have kids. I'm going to talk to her about going to the doctors to test. She is aware of the risks in having a child later. I guess at then end of the day, if she doesn't feel ready right now, then we will have to wait...
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get yourself checked. i was in the same situation. 37, no kids and not sure. a quick check said i was fine. now the father of 2 and looking toward a 3rd.
the problem is not just with getting pregnant at that age, many woman do it and have normal decent pregnancies and deliveries, though the younger the easier a the body is more supple.
something to think about is that the rates of certain deformities climbs quite dramatically as the woman approaches 40, downs syndrome and autism being 2 of them.
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AKKY
14 yrs ago
I totally agree with Rasbro.....firstly the older you get the chances of getting pregnant can be an issue for some women. You can be trying for years without any results then you get all stressed out and that makes it even harder to get pregnant. Don't think you can get pregnant whenever you want to. secondly, from what I have seen in the hospital (while I was pregnant) many complications arise in older womens than with younger ones. For examples Placenta Previa happens more in older women (>35) than in younger ones. thirdly more chances of deformities (as mentioned by Rasbro). Fourthly, this I've noticed by observation only ....that women who delivered after 30 experience more postnatal depression than younger women. sometimes I wish my mother could have told me this instead of just telling me to have kids earlier but not explaining why. Anyway of course there are always those expectional people who can have kids at any age eg >40 and have no complications or postnatal problems. Those i really envy.
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I think you should talk to her and really find out how she feels. I guess she has her fears as well.
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