The truth about internet dating

Internet dating may be all rainbows in the adverts but the truth is that many more hearts are broken than matches made


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http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/romance-passion/would-like-to-meet-the-truth-about-internet-dating-2124529.html

This is a pretty accurate article. Yet, it's important to remember that Internet Dating does work, just not in the percentage that people wish it to work. In my opinion it's worth trying it despite all the mentioned setbacks.

Interesting article.

But the reality is that even the real world, failure is the statistical norm.

Even if you only dated 4 people before finding Mr/Ms Right, you have an 80% failure rate.


Singles bars can be brutal. A virtual rejection is easier to recover from as there is no public loss of face.


I saw an interesting article this week about a dating site in the UK for uglies (their words) that has just had its first engagement.


At the end of the day there is a numbers game at play. Even if you are too busy to go out every week, you can still meet people online. This will bump up the numbers.

Failure and rejection is the norm for any kind of dating.


And what's wrong about de-selection for arbitrary reasons ? ..... women have to sort thru all the potential men... are they supposed to avail themselves to every man who shows up ?


Despite claims to the contrary, this DOES sound like a self pity article.

I think internet dating is just one channel to meet people. Hong Kong is a cosmpolitan city, everyone is so busy and may have restricted network. While in the virtual world, we could meet people in different industry whereas in real life it is not easy to have access to. Of course, we just have to be cautious about safety.


It is a trial & error opportunity. At least we tried before we committed to single life...

Of course you don't have to commit to a single life.


A lot of stuff is down to attitude. And sometimes love can find us when we least expect it, and in the least likely packages.


Go looking for friends with perhaps a bit of flirting and romance as a fringe benefit. Keel and open mind.


If you go looking for your future husband or wife you will scare of many potential friendly relationships. Many of these relationships can be beneficial without leading to marriage. If you look for a future life partner, the other risk is that you will be too discerning and reject people before you have even had a chance to get to know them.


Yes, there are whirlwind romances. But these are the exception no the norm.

Internet dating is not much different to real life. I have quite enjoyed the process of meeting people that i wouldn't otherwise meet due to a grueling working schedule, and a network of friends who are mainly married or happily paired up. My chances of meeting interesting single men were limited, and i haven't got the balls to go up some cute guy in a bar and introduce myself.

So Internet dating really did it for me. Every week i would meet at least two guys for coffee and drinks, and if we enjoyed each other's company i would see them again and again. Some turned into close friends, others into something more, and eventually i met the right guy. It's true that the more men you meet the more chances you have of finally clicking with someone. I didn't enter this online dating thing looking for a husband or with a list of requirements and specifications. I kept it open and light-hearted, and so did the men i met. When you meet a great guy, and he likes you, things will get serious naturally. It's important to share values and some interests, but making a list of books you like, films you watched, countries you want to visit just ensures that you will meet some like-minded men, not necessarily men you would want to have a relationship with. I met some weirdos who shared my taste in music, but the great guy i ended up with actually didn't fit any mould, and couldn't be summarized in a paragraph.

Selda, mind to tell us how many guys have you met? what would be the worst? Needless to ask what would be the best.... I completely agree with your statement too. Just probably I am not open minded enough to meet strangers. Just not everyone can do that, then what else can we do?