Posted by
Ed
14 yrs ago
The trend for Chinese female pop stars to marry rich businessmen is a practical solution that fits their lifestyles
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IMO Decent people would work to earn money, not marry for money. Marrying for money is no different from selling yourself just like a prostitute/gigolo would. You have no feelings for the person, not attracted but would marry and have sex because you get a lot of $ from doing so.
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sicn
14 yrs ago
How can “a pop star married a rich business man” equal to “marry someone for money”? How much assumption we have put into such titled marriage or relationship while in fact, we, the outsiders, have no any idea of?
There are huge differences between marrying someone WITH money and marry FOR the money.
I think people automatically frown on the sight of younger (Chinese) females with older (western) guys or any other similar combination, need to do some soul searching themselves. Who actually put on the money tag first before they actually know those couples? Or as a matter of fact, do they really care about those couple’s happiness or just their own crusade of jealousy?
I personally know a young-old couple who are constantly being “harassed” about their union by other “righteous” people who “despise” marrying for money. But in fact the young woman was already financially stable before the marriage and the older gentleman is not rich. So has this fact proved their marriage is love marriage? No, not at all. But it works for those who themselves believe in money is everything people shall be after.
Now come back to the topic: anything wrong to marry for money? Then we have to ask ourselves: Do we marry for money? According to survey, at least half of the divorce in US is out of financial reasons. And divorce rate is more than 50% in US. That means more than 25% of us going into marriage believe in “no money, no marriage”. Of course most of us love first then get married. But in most cases, love doesn’t even happen if there is no money in the present or the hope of the future. (By the way, our society label those who don’t have money and won’t make money losers and no parents would be happy if their kids fall for the losers.) So, tell me, are we all really so innocent?
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I don't doubt the pop star is attracted to this man, but the question is why ?
The issue is attraction. Some ladies will make statements like "men are shallow, they only pay attention to a ladies looks"; which is true of some men. And the flip side is that some women are only attracted to men with money; which is also very shallow.
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bhklady,
what maybe ugly to you may be beautiful to others. And it may come as a surprise to you but not all men like skinny women, some like them big and fat. ugly + a great personality is a whole lot better to me than skinny pretty /ok looking with a bad attitude.
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yes thats right, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.Iam a woman and Iam not agree to the facts that marrying for money.It's like selling yourself to get that money.If you really love each other your not after for the money of each other.Of course you need to work in order to live.The post is not marrying for a man but marrying for money..So it means you don't need a partner but you need a money only.So you work hard and earn a lot of money and then you can marry your own money.
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bhklady,
I responded to this statement of yours "I have seem some ugly and fat ladies with handsome men and money. Then how can you guys explain this ?"
You may find those fat and ugly ladies repulsive but the handsome rich men they are with may find them beautiful. As said by raider, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Just because you find them fat and ugly doesn't mean everyone else will have the same opinion. Hope that answers your question.
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bhklady, sorry but Iam an honest person also. In my whole life I didn't went to the bars.I don't even knew whats inside of that, what the people doing there. Well maybe you said many men married to other women who worked there.Maybe they found their love on each other.I don't know if some women maybe they after for the money also.That's their life.We cannot help them to get out from their work.That's what kind of job they knew.They used their body just to attract men.We don't know their plan.It's their way to help their family.If we cannot help them then just leave them.
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bhklady, sorry but Iam an honest person also. In my whole life I didn't went to the bars.I don't even knew whats inside of that, what the people doing there. Well maybe you said many men married to other women who worked there.Maybe they found their love on each other.I don't know if some women maybe they after for the money also.That's their life.We cannot help them to get out from their work.That's what kind of job they knew.They used their body just to attract men.We don't know their plan.It's their way to help their family.If we cannot help them then just leave them.
I don't drink, smoke, so what if going to the bars. Well, I don't like a smoker women, and always drink.
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dear bhklady,
if god created love then he has a pretty weird sense of humour when you consider all the problems that love creates!
everybody gets married for different reasons and considerations, who are we to judge. some people charge money and some people pay money for 'love'; until we know what's inside every individual and all their reasons why should anyone sit in moral judgement. leave the judgement up to your god, that's why he's there isn't it? nobody is better than anybody else but some are a damn sight worse off!
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i never said there was anything wrong with marrying for money, i simply said that some of us tend to judge others too quickly without all the facts being known. i also don't differentiate between pop stars in asia or the west and most certainly do not intend to read the book you suggest, neither do i agree that marriage for most pops stars is a job! to claim this sweeping generalisation you are probably insulting some very genuine people who are deeply in love and committed to each other.
finally, in answer to your question 'can you marry a beggar in the street', i think you'll find that my wife, who i love dearly, had no money when i married her. a beggar is not born a beggar, contrary to some religious and cultural biases. if god created love then he would have been better off using his energy to change some of his religions that advocate hatred and discrimination.
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sicn
14 yrs ago
I think someone has said it: who are we to judge? We can’t really blame those individuals for their choices of love or the reason why they feel attractions to other individuals. People are just products of their environment. If we can live in a society that economic activities do not dominate our daily lives; if we have different value systems that allows us enjoy life outside of the man-made material world; if there are other belief systems that allow people worship things other than money; if we are allowed to have a decent living without spending most of our time pursuing money; if we are suggested that money doesn’t equal happiness… Then we might believe that we CAN be happy without money. In the end, it is the happiness that we all are after. Nothing wrong with people’s choice of who to marry, it is a reflection of what people consider happiness is about. Only thing wrong is some society requires a lot more money for their citizens to feel secured/happy than others. And we can't judge others' choices by taking them out of the contax.
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thank you, sicn. i find this message board and interesting and generally informative tool for people seeking advice. sadly too many people have an olympic gold medal in jumping to conclusions and rant on about everything whilst giving some pretty scary advice. when people ask for advice it is always better to sit back and try REALLY HARD to see both sides of the situation rather than jump in and condemn.
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Well the OP is about (NOTHING WRONG WITH MARRYING FOR MONEY). I think every individual has its own choice whom to marry a person.Rich and poor, Poor and poor, Rich and rich. All these kind of people have money or not can be together as husband and wife. In my opinion the OP is not good to hear.As I said before its nothing wrong to marry a money IF that money is belong from your sweat hardwork earned money.But of course if you marry a man or woman just for his/her money without love, I think that kind of people is selfish.Depending on others money for you to have a good living and take out from the water without love? Many rich man marry a poor woman because they love each other.But some other people think that a poor woman is just after the money of rich man.It depends on the situation.
And about the celebrity the girl (well in fairness I like Barbie Xu :) ) Theres nothing wrong if she marry that rich businessman. But its because she is a celebrity of course theres a PR to called. The media is updated in every move they make.
All kinds of married people have their own different stories.
Jumping into conclusion without any observation is a wrong idea and action.
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bhklady, i simply do not understand your level of anger and discrimination. i am not rich and i am not a businessman; but i do find your questions to be unnecessarily personal and completely off topic.
i'm happy that you consider your life, morals and opinions to be perfect!
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guys, just understand bhklady coz she is still single and looking.
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Is anyone seen a movie title DESPERATE WOMAN? And anyone seen a movie MANHATER?
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i hope that bhklady is a fake. the only other option based on her last condemnation of westerners, businessmen, thais, guys, dogs and almost everything else; followed by the glorious singing of her own praises; there appears to be only one other possibility of who she is. after all it is getting near to xmas and perhaps they got the date wrong 2010 years ago. couple this with her continued mention of god creating love, it appears that J.C.'s back as a hong kong business woman! anybody see that bright star last night?
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i think there are too many women who are just seeking this lazy way and marrying men for money. there are too many of these women around and not enough men. anyway, these women get themselves in trouble most of the time coz these money men will not only use them when they like but they have other equally money hungry women out there as well. women have to realise that this is one big cycle. there's no end. In the end, all these money hungry women are actually just fighting/competing against one another for men.
what i can't stand is not only a money hungry women, but an asian woman who desperately hooks a white guy and starts acting soooo 'caucasian'. like plz! no matter how much u fake ur accent or change ur mannerism and think ur status is elevated to being more classy becoz ur wif some white guy, ur still a yellow chink.
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