Identifying a Toxic Man

Dr. Glass says women become “toxic men magnets” when they convince themselves they can tame “bad boys” – that’s the ego talking, she says. Others quietly believe their love is like no other – that’s naiveté. Others still are addicted to drama, mistaking intensity for love.


But the habit can be broken, writes Dr. Glass. She urges women to identify toxic men through their body language, voice and speech patterns. Liars, for instance, will shrug their shoulders when they speak. Bullies tense their jaws. Jerks will tell you they’re jerks early on in your dating career – don’t dismiss their sheepish admission.


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Then there is the habit of desperate women who seeks love, that falls deeply, passionately, with these men because they seek drama in their lives.


The same old story.

Interesting topic. Though I may not qualify as a typical "toxic" man, as mentioned in previously mentioned posts, I have felt toxic. As the "bad guy" in a previous long term relationship, I was, at one point in the relationship, unfaithful with nearly no morals. After 2 years of self exile, I've had plenty of time to suffer guilt, reflect, regret and batter myself for my actions. Today, after much struggle, therapy and plenty more lesser mistakes, am not the same person. Committed to building my integrity, and having empathy towards others, I could never pull off the same BS as once came so easy to me.


Yes, I agree, the tell-tell signs of a player and tool are obvious. But, there are plenty of men out there who have a hard time representing themselves even though they have good hearts and values. Many of them, like me are trying (and succeeding) to be better people. So, trying to classify of judge someone off of experiences isn't an art. There may may be something valuable behind his creepy persona after all. Trouble is, your not going to meet guys like me in LKF, or any thing like that because we're done w/ that sort of scene.

Very True : I’ve seen a lot of decent men sitting at home alone, while male sociopaths are never short of a date. Why do gangsters always have female companionship ? Many women seem to be programmed to choose the wrong men. And when women get burned then they join forums like this & write comments like all men are bad.


There were a even few cases in the USA, where men who murdered their partners were getting hundreds of love letters from women who want to save these men; thinking “it will be different with me”


Women only have themselves to blame if they keep pursuing the wrong kind of men.

I think woman to identify a toxic man shall start from herself. Be realistic about yourself: you are not the special one that can make him change for you.

what interests me will be more constructive like:"how to be immune to toxic man"