help! marrying at a young age! :(

hi im a filipino (girl) hong kong permanent resident living with my parents i am now 21yrs old . me and my boyfriend for 2yrs n 8mos are planning on getting married. as for me i want to get married here in hong kong but he is originally staying in the philippines he is still studying entreprenuership but want to stop and maybe do a working student here in hong kong like me.

heres my question:

*is it possible for us to get married at our age in hong kong.

*after getting married can he work asap (cause we both dont want too wait for soo long and we wouldnt only me working for the both of us)

*what if he decided to continue his study again in the philippines can he leave hk for 3-4mos and come back here during every sem breaks of him

sry i had some typo its ( we dont want only me working for the both of us(supporst) )

oh his not a hong kong resident so it will make him a dependant when u marry him .

Immigration will be highly doubtful and i wonder if they issue him a dependent visa at all, unless you have some good savings and can show how you plan to support him.

hmmm i do hve a job and so as my parents and by brother which where i am living..

well thats the thing he doesent want me supporting him he wants him to support me so that i can do less working and more studying

thx

you can give it a try, nothing to lose except a risk of him not getting a visa

wow...your only 21 and already thinking of getting married? what's the rush? take your time.... try and reach for the stars, don't get caught up marrying your 'crush' at an early age and spend the rest of your life in regret. What's the point in marrying him so quick and talking about supporting each other???


Focus on your life! Get your education, get a job, enjoy your new income, enjoy your young life, enjoy your friends, enjoy your freedom.... You can always get married to him at a later point in life but not now. Why sacrifice the BEST YEARS OF YOUR LIFE to get married early.... have unnecessary responsibilities? work hard and pay rent? pay for food and recreation? eventually, end up supporting your bf because he can't find a job or because he gets a low-wage job? Look at your friends or better yet.... there are tons of references in the philippine community where the men don't do anything and the mother/wife goes out and works hard to support the family (i have friends married to phil'y women and they are shocked when the went back to visit her friends and family).


Take a step back and write down the good and bad points about getting married now.... is he pushing you to get married now? You have to think from his side too.... Yes, he may love you and miss you or maybe he's going crazy because he is a jealous type and is worried you will meet another man? maybe he just wants to leave home and go to another country? tons of reasons.... but, WHAT DO YOU WANT?


don't think with your heart....don't think with your hormones.... think with your head because this decision will set the path for the rest of your life! Take your time and try and enjoy this small window of time you currently have....Live life! You always have time to marry him in the future and at that time, you can make a better decision because you will have a little more life experience. If he can't wait... that's his fault. It's YOUR life!

Lol. I am with silverback on this, but then it takes knowing what a crap idea it was marrying at 21 to be able to give advice on it. I would totally say wait, where's the fire? If you are both still finishing your education and you know you love each other, whats the big deal in waiting until you graduate?


*SMH*


Of course, if you told me that when I was 21 and all full of self-assurance, I wouldn't have listened either.