should I give up or not?

I met this guy 1 year ago, we had been working in the same company.


We both had our own relationships when we met, however, I was separated with my ex by then and he was not happy with his own relationship either. We both decided to be together a while later.


The problem appeared after the decision. My ex fought for a while and then left me alone. His ex turned out to be crazy. She kept on looking for him by threatening suicide, calling him every weekend, waiting outside of our doors and calling his parents to pressure him to go back to her. Non of her tricks worked out, but the process was killing me. It lasted for almost a year.


Recently she showed up at our doors on our anniversary. He locked the door and asked me to be quiet, pretending there was nobody inside. But she did not want to go away, she kept on knocking and knocking at the door. As we had the experience before that she waited at our doors till mid-night and till he went out to escort her away, I made him go out to talk her away. I did not know exactly what he told her, she went away. But I do not know if she will ever come back again.


What's worse was that his parents disapprove us. He fought with them once for me, they are not talking to each other right now. But I know deep in my heart that he will surrender if his parents do something big to make him give up. I don't know what I should do now. The past year was a nightmare with his ex's non-stop harassment and I don't know if it will continue. I tried to talk a way out with him, he was outrageous every time when I mentioned it. The problem remained, and still, should I give it up for a peaceful mind and life?

Thanks Green-Catalonia. I guess there is no quick answer for this situation, either. Everytime when I think of giving up, I would think of the reason why I held up so long. The question is, Am I deceiving myself? Why would he avoid talking abt the problem and became outrageous every time? was he not sure what he did/needs to do worthwhile?

i think you should split right away. your boyfriend is an idiot and maybe not so innocent in maintaining the spirits of that ex-gf. she is fighting because she sees a chance and as long as he talks to her she will continue

I am sorry to say this, but if she's capable of stalking him, he was right to dump her. She is not thinking about him, but just about herself.


She is typical of the "wronged" women complaining that their man has run away with someone else. Such women never spend one minute to look at their own behaviour or wonder why their husband was susceptible to the wiles of another.


Being so selfish, she will only stop when she realizes either she has no hope, or she finds someone else. Your man needs to have the balls to let her know it's over, and the more she does this, the more convinced he is. If you were in HK, I'd advise you to call the police next time she starts making trouble outside your front door. Not sure who can send her away in China.



good luck.