have you ever been cheated on?

http://www.chinasmack.com/2011/pictures/guangzhou-wife-publicly-attacks-cheating-husbands-mistress.html

Oh dang, thats a proper MMA style smackdown! I am sorry to laugh but the pictures are just too much. Two featherweights and I think even the helper is holding the mistress down while angry wife gets in on some payback!


Thing is, why isn't the husband the one getting the smackdown?


What makes women take their anger out on an unknown woman when the man they love is right there and red handed??


I know people say that its not merely the husbands fault and the mistress has some of the blame to share too, especially if she knew she was messing with a married man, but the truth of the matter is rarely does a cheating married man say, "I have an awesome wife with a bangin bod who loves me long time all the time, but I just want to get in your pants coz thats how I roll!"


Nope.


The story the mistress usually hears before anything kicks off goes more like "I am in a loveless marriage, I don't get to see the poonani, let alone go near it, my wife is cold and distant, I am so depressed, but I am staying coz of the kids...(or whatever other excuse)"


And so mistress material, if she is a lonely and emotionally thirsty individual, is likely to fall for that shizz hook, line and sinker.


If you are being cheated on, oh sure, maybe you gotto look at what got you guys there in the first place, but also, maybe you should ensure your partner that cheated has all the 'splaining to do and not sit there stewing about some other woman/man who came along to "steal" your sorry catch.

I am sorry to see the pictures and feel pity for both women.


If I were the wife, I would blame my husband, even I hate the mistress, I wouldn't act like this, it's too awkward and irrational.


I reckon the wife blames on the mistress but not the husband is because she

(1)still loves the husband and doesn't want to ruin their marriage;

(2)doesn't love the husband but want to provide a complete family for kids;

(3)financially relies on the husband and doesn't want to lose the backup.


I was wondering, if there is no gap between a couple, there should be no paramour /third party...

Dadnstupid - you are right - if there is no gap between a couple, there should be no paramour /third party.


When there is a 3rd party (either man or woman cheating) normally there is plenty of blame to go around.


Typical scenario goes something like this : The 3rd party hoping to steal another's partner 'I want what she has' ; The stray husband, hoping to have his cake & eat it too. And the selfish wife, who doesn't care to please her husband, but resents a 3rd party doing what she will not.

To a great extent thats true. I mean, I know someone who is married...and he is married to a woman about 4 years older than him. They have 2 kids, these kids came right off the bat after getting married, like simply sitting in the same bathtub could get that woman pregnant! So yeah, the wife refuses to move the kids to their own room, claiming they are "not ready" (one is a year and a bit, the other is three) and so the last time this friend of mine saw some action must have been on holiday, but he vaguely remembers it being about 9 months ago!


Seriously? Thats marriage? The guy is only 30 mind you...


*SMH*


And so my friend has been desperate to go get a vasectomy coz he thinks this may up his chances of getting his wife to put out, coz he thinks maybe thats what she is fearful about, but the wife, even though she is sure she doesn't want any more kids is dead against him getting a vasectomy because she fears he will go cheat on her if he had it!


Yeah, I know, I was thinking the same thing! Said friend is very faithful, in the great scheme of things, but how long do you think his love for his kids will hold this marriage together before he goes and cheats, tubes snipped or not!


Of course, said friend is also a heavy drinker now...and the common sense of condoms doesn't seem to factor in with these two in the first place...but loads of blame to go around in all stories.