cant get over him...



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Posted by sweet_24 12 yrs ago
I was walking on a road somewhere in NT when a car passed me and stopped and moved backwards, in short the handsome guy on the wheels offered me a lift, he looked harmless so i hopped in. We exchanged numbers for some reasons...2hours after he dropped me off he sent me a message saying that i put a smile on his face for the day, that if he could call sometime and we hang out blah, blah. After 3weeks of exchanging text messages he invited me to his pad, the 2nd visit we had fun, 3rd, 4th and 5th...we dont do just sex but we cuddled, watched movies, laughed and drunk ourselves. The sad part is i have to leave hk and have to work somewhere. I know that he is a player and i am too idiot falling for him. its been months since i left but he is still on my mind. Sometimes, i think that having a same sex relationship is better than dating/flirting with opposite sex (in my point of view)...argh i just cant get over him...how can i move on?

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guyinhk` 12 yrs ago


That's hilarious. Grow up and move on or face emotional torture later when he plays with you

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sweet_24 12 yrs ago
i mean i already moved on as i am no longer in hk, i want to explore, go out and meet some nice guys but i just cant...i am still hoping that someday we will meet again, will i hold on to that hope? he is good looking, totally nice...13yrs older than me...white and i am asian. ive been in love before but he is totally different! your opinion please...thanks!

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songyu 12 yrs ago
sooo typical ... white washed (LOL)

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Amparo Kia 12 yrs ago
I was walking on a road somewhere in NT when a car passed me and stopped and moved backwards, in short the handsome guy on the wheels offered me a lift, he looked harmless so i hopped in.


A movie scene?? please young girls out there, do not do this, you may end up being a sex slave in some basement of a psycho :))

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Justin Credible (Part Deux) 12 yrs ago
I was thinking along the same lines. The only place I have heard of a man driving along and offering someone a ride would be in some place like Dubai or the UAE where it doesn't end any place happy for the happless woman who accepts the ride.


Bit naive to be accepting a ride from a stranger, but then, looks like they both got what they wanted except that OP didn't bargain for the whole issue of endorphin release making her hung up on this roadside romeo.

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gaz_hayes 12 yrs ago
I'm trying to get my head around this: "i think that having a same sex relationship is better than dating/flirting with opposite sex"


Are you saying you're a guy? Not judging I'm just wondering cause you sound like a girl the way you write.



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Lunatic 12 yrs ago
well, you could wear a skimpy outfit and take a stroll in a posh neighborhood in the country where you are now. am pretty sure you would befriend someone as exciting as this boy pretty soon. i mean, who on earth does not like having sex, cuddling, watching movies, laughing, and drinking for free?


otherwise, you may try a same sex relationship, if you are feeling very very socially adventurous. especially if you are asian. wait till your parents find out. with the excitement you will get from that event alone, this boytoy will fly out of your mind in 5 secs. results guaranteed.


cheers.



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CaptDave 12 yrs ago
I can well imagine roads in the NT where this scenario is plausible - although unwise


There seems to be a younger generation that has spent so much time passively watching TV and the internet that they have not spent enough time learning to relate to fellow humans in general, but especially to members of the opposite sex. This leads to the meme that members of the opposite sex are hard to get along with, and one might as well just give up, and pursue a same sex relationship.... not because one has passion for persons of the same sex (like a true L or H), but because one is too lazy to make a heterosexual relationship work, and the same sex relationship appears as a panacea.


Sweet 24 > Anything of value has a cost. Relationships (of any kind) require work. Do not obsess with the man who picked you up. You will meet other men.

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sweet_24 12 yrs ago
it happened daytime and 3-minute drive away from town. we knew that we like each other before we had sex. his car is old model dirty and messy, he looked a little bit shabby even its obvious that he just showered. he even walked on his barefoot when we stopped at the gasoline station...but i like the way he is...he is not an executive or businessman type, i dont know if he is poor or rich but i know what he does for a living.


i bring wine when i visit as i researched their custom that being invited to someone's house for a dinner or bbq you may bring gift/wine as they will appreciate it. i am not into his money as i can make my own, i am not into his permanent visa in hk as i like it here more (he mentioned before that he got bored in hk and planning to move to the country where i am right now, he mentioned different province though). i just wanted communication and his commitment. Lunatic, i am not into skimpy clothes...i am at my best when im in jeans, tshirt and rubber shoes.


he is the first male that i had sex with. i have been into a same sex relationship we never use **xtoys, no kidding!!!yes, (my ex-partner dressed like a man, act like a man, so i am not into girls i am attracted to boys or lesbians that were handsome, you know what i mean? in my past relationship i am the mom and my ex was dad) and it didnt turned out well even i sacrificed a lot of things. that is why when i met this "blue eyes" i thought that he is the one...i thought that he would care...are caucasians really stone-hearted (no pun intented) in terms of playing an asian girl?

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gaz_hayes 12 yrs ago
"are caucasians really stone-hearted"


I know you are just naive and not meaning to be racist, but everyone are individuals and make their own choices, it's nothing to do with the color of their skin. I think I see why this guy didn't think your relationship was going anywhere.


Anyway this guy is gone, sound like you both had a good time. Do yourself a favor and remember the good times but forget about EVER seeing him again, it's over.


And next time, don't get in strangers cars, that's a good way to get raped and murdered.



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songyu 12 yrs ago



hope this girl still has a little brain left in her head to at least understand the message from gaz_hayes.


Though i bet a hundred bucks not long from now she will repeat the same story again, just with different guys as long as the guys are white, shabby, barefoot, driving an old dirty and messy car, much older than her ... she herself who might look for trouble, for attention, immature behavior, or ... perhaps its herself who cant feel comfy in her own asian skin ... (eyes rolling)

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Justin Credible (Part Deux) 12 yrs ago
Lol, I was thinking that some guy drives by in a car, offers a ride, etc, maybe it was some fancy pants in a Merc or something, but its practically a bum in a dirty car, probably why it seemed less of a threat! Who knows! *shrug* (ROFL)

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Amparo Kia 12 yrs ago
Sweet, easy come, easy go


well, you can't really expect a guy to play serious with a girl he could randomly pick on the street, do you?

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gaz_hayes 12 yrs ago
Amparo you are full of sh!t and just being mean. There's no reason why that couldn't happen... it's no different to meeting guys anywhere else.


I'm sure if these two were suited to each other and this guy didn't have to leave HK it could have worked out just fine, but they weren't. Obviously the guy did do his 'due diligence' (he wouldn't have spent so much time with her if it was just for sex) but it didn't work out.

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sweet_24 12 yrs ago
i got a text message...


please stop calling this early...i have a filipino gf now and we are getting married next month...


(wow! that was a hard kick on my dark chocolate ass, oh well it is really time for me to let go. everything happens for a reason. accepting his free lift offer made me a human by a trusting a fellow human,i am still believing in my instinct whether to trust or not to trust a person. good thing that there are some good samaritans out there, like him in some other ways. circumstances happened the way you dealt with the situation.


thanks everyone :)

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Loyd Grossman is Miss Venezuela 12 yrs ago
Sweet_24. All part of life's rich tapestry. You're not the first and you won't be the last. I'm sure his new girlfriend will end up taking him to the cleaners, so no need to cry. But please, please, stop getting into cars with complete strangers. As a survival tactic, it ranks with smoking 20 cigarettes a day.

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Justin Credible (Part Deux) 12 yrs ago
Good Samaritan? Jeysus, already! You were hardly lying wounded on the side of the road here, although the guy might as well have been riding a donkey!


You got picked up on the side of the road, you fell for the guy, he is now telling you to stop making harrasing calls so early in the morning and also, as if the whole aspect of "time to move on" hadn't already dawned on you when you moved, he has flat out told you that he is seeing someone else.


So hmmm....


Good luck for the future...and as LGMV said, never, never, never accept rides from strangers. Its what Mums teach kids as a golden rule, just coz you are an adult doesn't make it any less of a golden rule.

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sweet_24 12 yrs ago
thanks for the advice everyone and thanks for treating me like a 16-year old.


i still love him though...i cried a lot esp when i remember the times that he would call asking me if we will cook and eat dinner at his place or he will grab something that i would like to eat. i always take a trip down memory lane...its killing me.

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Loyd Grossman is Miss Venezuela 12 yrs ago
Sweet_24. Don't worry, it'll wear off. Get some exercise and tire yourself out.

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