Can an affair ever help a marriage?

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health/ask-a-health-expert/ask-a-psychologist/can-an-affair-ever-help-a-marriage/article2373640/

Guarantee!!!

I don't know about an "affair" with feelings and falling in love with the other person. But it has been my experience that having extramarital sex has helped my marriage. I am no longer as whiny and bitchy about not getting my needs met because I am now getting them met elsewhere. Whining and bitching does not help anybody.


And besides, this article is naive in the extreme.


"talk to your partner about what is missing"

Sometimes, even after talking ad nauseum, the other partner doesn't care or want to change.


"Often decisions to engage in an affair are made spontaneously with little thought."

This is BS. Drunken one night stands are made spontaneously with little thought. Anyone I know who is having an actual ongoing affair thought very carefully about it and weighed up the consequences.


"consider seeing a marriage therapist. A therapist can assist you in navigating through your issues"

More BS. I have seen 2 marriage therapists, neither of whom were remotely qualified to give advice on anyone's marriage as they had never been married themselves. And the advice they gave was worthsh*t for my particular situation. I have received much better, saner advice after a few beers with close friends than any therapist with too many letters after their name and no common sense.