Posted by
onurpalm
12 yrs ago
This guy is far from what I expect. Bt we've been together for almost two years and have seen each other's family. Now we are on the road to marriage. Should we just get married? It seems like I can see what my rest of life will be after marriage. If no marriage then what will be the option?
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What do you expect from a man? And in what way your expectations are not met?
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There is an old saying: "marry in haste, repent at leisure". Getting married is a serious step in your life, and the life of your potential spouse. Make absolutely certain that this is the right thing for you to do.
Being single might be better than being part of an unsatisfactory marriage.
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This forum is full of marriages that did not work out. Marriages work because the people are committed to making them work. It seems now all this relationship has going for it is (a) Inertia (b)Your fear of being single. Be very sure what you expect from a relationship before stepping into it.
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yes good advise
even better would be to live with him as his concubine instead of his wife,
you never know how you may have to repent at leisure...
you should live with him and extend the testing period for as long as possible and in the meantime keep searching for that "perfect man".
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Should we just get married? No, of course not
If no marriage then what will be the option? Continue dating or break up.
Am I missing something or just insensitive.
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Marriage is for suckers, or rather, a tool for women to bind a man. Men DO NOT want to marry. They do it to calm their impulsive partners down in an attempt to make them happy.
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marriage is no good
marriage is for suckers who want to take responsibility of things in their life and of their wife.
why bother to marry and then bother to get dragged to court for divorce
keep the woman and kick her out and change another when get bored...
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Haha...this message board has quite a lot of people who resent marriage. Must have had bad experiences. I read somewhere that marriage is back in fashion and on the rise.
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Milty
12 yrs ago
Your other option is not to get married. Continue as is, or become single and start dating again. You haven't provided much info so it seems you're asking if you should get married simply because you've been together for 2 years.....do you love him? Can you imagine life without him? You don't need a post to answer that......
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As a person who is moving to HK soon (for the second time) it seems that some people in the region have a rather immature idea of relationships. Oh dear- I hope I will not meet such people.
Luckily, I am very happily married, having met my wife when we were nearing 50.
My advice: wait till you meet someone you can happily spend a lifetime with; one with whom you have much in common and enjoy many things together.
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Thanks guys。I guess I've made a decision. Postpone the marriage schedule. And btw, I am considering of moving out, though not successful yet. He is basically an alcoholic and buy alcohols every night. Just three days ago he promised me to stop drinking but getting drunk three nights in a row and came back home either midnight or early in the morning. we have had so many fights on his problem, everytime he would admit his weakness and make new promise but never deliver it. I am just too tired of listening to bullshit any longer. Moving out is a good option to clear my mind right?
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right
good decision
you wont be abused by him any more after you move out and fornication will stop as well if that counts...
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dont just postpone, dont marry somebody like him or should i say HIM...its obvious that he's already showing and giving you reasons not to marry him..move out asap and start a new life...and true marriage is two hearts and souls united by love not by a piece of paper and not by the "power of blah blah blah blah blah, i pronounce u blah blha blah.."
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