Posted by
CaptDave
13 yrs ago
This is pretty normal in Latin America, partly because its a form of birth control that does not break the Roman Catholic church rules... In Asia it's not that common.
Is your girlfriend asian or western ? In either case there are some major social taboos; No woman ever wants to admit to her friends that she does anything like this. No matter how much she enjoys it.
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OMG!! this forum is funny! Is this for real? too much information.
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I wonder if this is the new fad ?
The Brazilian was once pretty abnormal, now it's becoming more common among westerners (less so for Chinese). Somehow it spread from Latin America to the rest of the world... and it seems everyone is doing it. Will "back door" be the next trend that many people follow ?
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haha , just show how conservative the users of this forums are !
nobody is even daring to use the word ANAL
to answer your question ...u need to ease her in to it ,not just mentally but physically too.
"it only hurts if you don’t know what you’re doing)"-that so untrue ,it does hurt if she is not ready ,use to it or u not using lub .u can even create massive damage .
some girls like it some dont .
u got to start small ... and TRUST is need to be established ,
trust is everything .
check out fetlife.com about all kind of kink and lifestyle
hope she enjoy this path of sexual liberation .
btw
u might like it too... :)
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if yours is too shy, get another sheep that you can "ram it in there" ...
so many eazy girls here in hkg, esp. if you have white sausage ... lol
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Malka, it's a scientific fact that the HPV virus causes cancer: Cervical cancer in women who engage in vaginal intercourse, and anal cancer in women who go anal and gay men. Either way, you can get cancer. So, the HK govt recommends women to get the immunization against HPV. So the question is which one killed Farrah Fawcett ?
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is saying the word anal get your post removed?
CaptDave ,are you saying us women should only engaged in oral sex?
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Someone mentioned Farrah Fawcett - which raises the topic of cancer. I am saying there is cancer risk whichever way you go - get immunized.
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And by the way, just engaging in oral doesn't prevent jack, lots of people getting oral cancer from that! True story!
Right, now to address OP:
"I know she will like it."
That is a huge assumption, mate. No two children are alike. No two snowflakes are alike. And just coz your crazy ex had a thing for marauders of the marmite motorway, doesn't mean your current has to be crazy about that shi*! No pun intended.
I have friends, males, who have had their wick dipped into the mouths of gay men but still consider themselves straight. Now I know other guys who wouldn't in a million years dip their wicks into the mouths of gay men. Does this mean they don't know what they are missing? Or does it mean they are pretty secure in knowing what they want?
Your current gf is a nice girl, may be the one, and lo and behold, she doesn't want you bonking her up the poopchute. If this is a deal breaker for you, bear in mind, you can always back out! I mean, look at the one who was all for the poopchute, a lazy, whining nutjob who you ended up dumping!
Dude..."the one" is overrated. You either like this one or you can't see yourself ever getting around to convincing her you can't live without the back door. My best friend was into swinging and the back door, not necessarily the both at the same time, of course when he met the girl he thought was "the one" he had to grow up and admit that maybe he would have to hang up his swinging/backdoor tights for good and settle for good sex, great bj, skiing buddy, and an awesome baby.
You live and let live. Unless you think every guy deserves to get blown by other guys and like it, you gotto consider that not every girl likes to take it up the back door, gently or roughly, its not for everyone.
It irritates me when I see backdoor enthusiasts talk about it like its the holy grail and that those that haven't given it the old school try are just prudes or don't know what they are doing. Maybe some folks just enjoy sex in other ways.
*shrug* consider it. She's violently opposed coz she's violently opposed. Why go out and call her repressed for being nice and opposed to taking it up the tailpipe? Not very fair, I think. Culture has nothing to do with it...just individuals being different from each other. Sure you may think she is missing something, but she may not think that.
Say, just for example, I have partaken in a doobie or three back in the day...it doesn't mean that someone who hasn't ever smoked has missed out. Tomato/Tomaaaaahtoeh!
Its like an S&M or B&D enthusiast saying that everyone should get a good pencil heel to the scrotum or a lashing on the soles of their feet, divine! Pshhh, no thanks! Not for me, not my cuppa joe.
Same thing with the bunghole for your gf, nice one, better than the last, just not coming with the welcome mat at the back door, thats all. If that is such an issue for you, then dump her and keep searching for that girl that will be all up for it. But, being as you hadn't tried this until the last one, its naive to think there are a gaggle of girls out there all fist pumping for a backdoor bandit. *SMH*
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GOD im getting tired of all the forums being high-jacked by these two guys!!
THEY KNOW AND HAVE OPINIONS ABOUT EVERYTHING !!
the op ask something if u dont have an answer ... dont answer!
stop shifting in-to lecture mood !
and f*cking get a life from the amount of ur post here u live only on cyber space !
i dont mean to be rude but GOD this two guys are just everyf*ckingwhere and i love how they always speak for women !!!!
i did not like anal till the right boyfriend !
but even if i didnt i dont need a man to speak for me!
even if the subject is f*cking cloud formations they will have a f*cking views about it !
and always from the all mighty high ground !
fun-police that what these 2 are buzz killers
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God i sound so angry in the last post..
sorry everyone
lets get this back on track and instead of lecture talk about kinky sex ;)....
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you know maybe she need to read about it first ... from a women point of view ..
i really recommend fetlife.com , reading other women point of view is refreshing and needless to say they are honest ..
not liking anal or any other kink does not mean she is repressed,not willing to talk about it is another thing , communication is so important ...
kink should be fun(and GOD IT FEEL SO GOOD TOO ;) )
try change ur attitude be more playfull in bed talk about other kinks dont obsess about it , start with stimulating that area with ur mouth.. ur finger focus on her pleasure not yours !!!!,maybe then she will relax ,and enjoy it ...
and by the way ... before u ask someone to do that ask urself if u r willing to do the same... just saying ..."Everyone who’s done it properly ends up addicted to it… it only hurts if you don’t know what you’re doing)" u might like it too ... :) hahaha
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Johnny South Side, ok, right, so now we are getting to the underbelly of it all, you think that she is repressed not merely because of this one issue but because of a few other things that make you feel you may not be getting a two way street when it comes to conversation. Care to elaborate?
I reckon, the more you explain the better you will be able to understand the problem you are dealing with and also if "I really should be looking for someone who is more open to discussion" is where it is at. Back to you.
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i sent u a pm ,i hope u dont mind
i think if i will post here about porn and erotica my post will be deleted ..
have fun
and if not with her im sure i'll find another girl to corrupt in a good way :)
have fun...
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'How do I ask her this ?'
actually you have already asked her. And very quickly she sent u a pm ... lol
girls here are so easy to bang, esp if you are white, do take advantage of the situation.
don't stick to just one girl. have as many as possible. the more the better and don't worry if they know about it because it won't bother them. it's the culture. they even get more motivated to do whatever and however you want to their best. you get the best of life nowhere else in the world except here with so many insecure and low self esteemed girls and women. each time different girl/s. if they're sexually repressed? nah, don't buy into it ;-0 they only want to make you more excited and impatient, imho
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na , in this case you are wrong songyu.....
im very content with my partner ...
but you will be surprised (or maybe not) of how many PMS i got from guys willing to "volunteer their expertise " after i show "knowledge" of the subject ..
and Johnny South Side was nothing but a gentleman .
it is funny that a WOMEN will point the finger at me just because im open minded and not ashamed to speak about sex ... i assume u are local and that is YOUR culture ! assuming that im easy cause im talking open about sex !
and even if i was ...nothing wrong with that ... i think that A BIT OF SEX OR BACK DOOR ACTION WILL DO GOOD TO SOMEONE AS JUDGMENTAL AND UP TIGHT AS YOU!!! :)
anyhow ... im sending u the same pm i sent J.S.S u might like that link .. :) i truly hope you will enjoy it .
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Tam > Well for all the bad things I may (or may not) have done, at least I never propositioned you.
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captdave...
i owe u an apology !
now u know why i reply the way i did , but still i was rude , im sorry .
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@ tam
i'm not local, though. and i enjoy the culture here. the girls are awesome and fun. they come running the minute i snap my fingers. many of them have as much knowledge as any best sex therapists in the world. they like to challenge me. i have only praises for them. but i make sure that no one can make me stick to only one of them. they may have nice personalities, they may be very contented with me but when the time comes for me to choose 'the one', i will go for other asian girl who has good values and worthy to be the mother of my kids. sexually repressed or not, i have no problem to tickle a woman's mind until she does whatever i expect her to do and she cries for more and more ... heh hehe
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@ Songyu you have raised an interesting topic.
Most men think along these lines : there are 2 kinds of girls -
+ Good Girls - suitable for marriage “good values and worthy”
+ Bad Girls - open minded, great knowledge of sex, etc.
And if you think this, then logic says you should fool around with bad girls as much as you can and marry a good girl.
The real world is not so black and white…. It’s safe to assume that most women want to have sex, and get married too.
In HK today because of men’s thinking, the same girl will play both roles, depending on the guy. Ladies are not dumb. They judge the guy. If he looks irresponsible, but cool, he’ll get a one night stand. If he looks like a keeper, he’ll be made to wait a LONG time before he gets any action. Why ? because most HK men only marry women who make the wait for sex. Maybe the same girl who had a ONS with a sailor the week before is making her boyfriend wait a long time.
So, if she’s acting like a good girl then maybe it’s because she’s good, or maybe because that’s what you want.
And to support the myth, doctors in Thailand, India and a few other countries doctors offer revirgination surgery.
The moral of my story is : Stop judging girls by their sexual experience.
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What about the women like me who are interested in marriage but are also open minded and enjoy sex? You're so closed minded Davey Boy lol
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TheNewMrsWong, I believe that CaptDave was saying that most women are interested in both sex AND marriage/committed relationship. I don't think you read his post properly.
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@ TheNewMrsWong & MyHongKong- Yes. That's my point.
I was saying most women are interested in marriage but are also open minded and enjoy sex. The problem is a lot of men don't want to see this. They pidgeon hole women into either/or
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I believe the "2 kinds of girls" idea is wrong. It's not my idea. SongYu brought the idea up, when he mentioned he liked to play with local girls, but would marry another kind of girl with "good values and worthy".
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Hugie
12 yrs ago
back door? Just call it up the Gary Glitter!
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Hugie
12 yrs ago
It's cockney rhyming slang mate!!! Think about!?
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If she's not interested in up the bum sex then that's tough, in my opinion.
I'm one of the most open minded young ladies, some stuff could turn your hair blue but not everyone is open to it.
And anyway, I dont care what you say about doing it properly, it does hurt! If not hurt then it's uncomfortable and a bit of a chore. I think you've been spoilt by this ONE girl who liked it and don't realise that it's not all that fun. Even my gay friend says he prefers to be Arthur rather than Marther.
If you're going to throw away a happy relationship over bum sex then you're a muppet.
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As the good book says, it is better to give than to receive.
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Topol
12 yrs ago
You women eh? You get tattoo's, get nipples/belly button/lady parts pierced, have hot wax dripped onto your bits, pull hair out with tweezers, get plastic surgery and have silicon injected into your boobs. But when it comes to a little bum fun it suddenly hurts too much!
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@Topol: You're right. forgive me for repeating myself : it's a social taboo
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I don't have anything pierced! Not even my ears and... Ok the waxing, but I don't do that by CHOICE!! Besides, there is electrolysis and that doesn't hurt at all! And it's permanent.
Stay out the bum unless both partners are willing. Although, I do think you should try something before you say you don't like it.
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u need to rememmber ... muppets got hands stuck up their bum ..
hehe
johnny
just make her watch porn
get her toys
start coruppting her slowly
:)
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Um... How could I be closed minded and ignorant if I have done the said act? My opinions are based on carefully researched fact.
So You have enjoyed this activity with one partner, I have not enjoyed it with a few partners (let's not go into numbers, I am a lady) and sometimes it doesn't hurt, it's just uncomfortable. But mainly, it hurts. I suggest you try having something inserted into your bum and see if you like it before saying that someone who doesn't agree with your views is closed minded.
I will say again, it is better to give than to receive.
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