From a mistress, advice for wives

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/from-a-mistress-advice-for-wives/article4484398/

“The irony is this man is risking his wife, his family. ... He’s the one choosing to break his home. So he’s really the homewrecker.”


(Tempted, Squeeze’s infidelity cautionary tale, is now playing in the background.)


Read the article, and enjoyed reading it. And now I have Squeeze playing in my head, not a bad tune to be stuck with!


I agree with this statement I picked out. Its like everyone wants to blame the other woman, but what about the DB husband who quite happily forgot about his wife and kids for some (and ofttimes not hot woman, quite contrary to the kind of woman most wives fear) strange.


Now on the other side of the coin, I think her advice to women (wives) is great too:


“We all want to be feminists; we want to be equals. But guess what? … If you want to wear your ugly t-shirt and your jeans around the house and act like a man, that’s what you’re going to get. And he’s going to go out and find a pretty young mistress who is sexy. It’s just a fact.”


Never give up on yourself, on your appearance or being sexy and desired. I see so many women who are all blase about the whole "Oh I never lost the baby weight" thing, while talking with a mouth full of chocolate muffin, following that up with, "for better of worse, I know he will love me no matter what!"


Oh, sure, he may still love you, but he will not be blind to the fact you look totally Moo. I mean, no offense, but this aspect of personal responsibility goes for men too...you get a beer gut, fart and scratch your balls in public all the time, its not gonna make your wife want to jump your bones in the morning!


Just coz you got your mate doesn't mean you can let things slide with regards to keeping your mate. If you had a job working at a bank, you would still have to ensure you a performing your tasks well in order to keep the job and possibly see a bonus coming your way, right? Same shizz, different way.

I've seen so many wives that got fat & lazy & selfish. Guess what - the husband found happiness somewhere else. Each blamed the other. After the divorce, the wives went to the gym, smartened up their act to get into another relationship.

Of course, if they'd treated the husband like they behaved after the divorce, he'd never strayed in the first place... So why didn't they do it earlier ? because the couple took each other for granted.


Of course, not every case is like this - they are sexaholics, drunks, violent men and women, drug addicts who will never make good partners - but the majority of relationships fail when they take each other for granted.

"I find that women in Asia, whether local or foreign take care of themselves a lot more than they would of back home."


I agree...


I think, well, if the competition is looking fit and hot, then its best to step up your game, right?


I guess it depends on the crowd you surround yourself with. Of the people I currently know, majority are fit, are into some sort of endurance sport or the other, so they don't really need a gym membership to burn 2000 calories a day...even the women seem to be in pretty good shape. But then again, majority of the people I know now are in good, happy, healthy relationships with kids and seem to have a life thats one of contentment.


10 years ago, not so much. I would say that I saw a lot more of those couplings that involved football playing brits who hang about Wan Chai and have girlfriends or wives that seem to be resigned to cheating partners and beer guts with egos of matching size!


Really...has to do with who you surround yourself with, lol. Workwise and otherwise.

Won Ton, I agree as well.


That said, some woman prefer their husbands to fatten up to worry less about the competition. But in the end the result is the same.. Woman with fattened up husband loses interest in him.. He feels rejected.. And finds it elsewhere...

rob_378, scary scenario, but yes, I know what you mean. I sometimes look at women who hit the gym a lot and wonder how they can be happy with an absolute slob of a podgy husband and well...it must be the thing you are talking about.


Insecurity is a strange animal.

Looks matter, sure, but attitude does too. You know how many women out there who are stunning get cheated on because they are outright b***hes to their husbands? And generally their husbands end up cheating with someone pretty average looking but who is nice, kind mannered and attentive...and this irks the beautiful wife no end.


It happens.


Looks are not all that matter, its all part of a greater package...its best to work on the big picture and to avoid ignoring parts of it.

Yep. include the b***hes under my "selfish". Either way, the husband is looking for happiness he cannot get at home.