Encouragement please...

I've just finished a long term relationship and am very sad. Everyone says to me it's for the best because he's not ready to commit and we've already tried to make it work for a long time. While my head knows this, my heart needs time to catch up and realise it too. I don't care to discuss the details of my relationship or the split.


I just wanted to hear some "light at the end of the tunnel" stories from those of you who may have gone thru a break up and thought you'd never find yourself or love again. Especially in HK, where the dating scene is notoriously full of players. Thanks

The break-up of any relationship causes pain in the short term, but you do know in your heart of hearts that you will be happier in the long term.


A broken relationship is difficult to live with. A bad relationship is worse. You are experiencing the break, so that you do not have to experience something worse.


Most of us have suffered from broken relationships - whether as mature adults in what appeared to be committed relationships, or just as kids in our first boyfriend/girlfriend idyll. Ironically, it was my first serious relationship that gave me the most pain> I was only 19, and it took me a long, long, time to get over it.


But I did. And now I am happily married to a wonderful woman who lives and breathes to make me happy - and I feel the same about her.


It takes a bit of manure to make a beautiful rose plant. Think about the roses, not about the manure.


Best of luck, and do not worry too much about when your time will come. It will come.

Thanks for your posts, I feel better after reading them and will keep reading them to keep my spirits up. This isn't the first time we've split and each time the reason was the same, he's not sure about his feelings for me. All other issues stem from this. Rather than looking back and waiting around for him to "be sure", I'm moving forward with my life and looking after myself first. Thanks again.

I have a very good idea to interest you with :


very good gathering/course that is called RDS :


Recovering from Divorce & Separation




You will find there a lot of people in your situation and this course is very very helpful. (it changed my life)


This is a practical and supportive course, giving any separated or divorced person an opportunity to discuss the challenges they are facing and the tools to deal with these effectively. This course is conducted by people who understand the pain caused by divorce or separation, and is for any person who is currently going through this pain or has been separated or divorced in the past.


This six week course covers a variety of topics including Facing the Effects of Separation , The Importance of Good Communication, Resolving Conflict, Forgiveness, and other Issues, Parenting Issues, Moving Forward with Hope. This course offers an opportunity to learn how to deal with the pain of the past and look forward to rebuilding life. Based on Christian principles, this course is helpful for any person with or without a church background. .


let me know if you are interested