Posted by
BuddhaBar
11 yrs ago
I've been in a relationship for a little over a year and it's all good in every way, but he looks at every woman! It's driving me nuts but not sure whether to say anything!
Is this normal???? Men! Please answer!
Thanks :)
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yes, totally normal. experienced men are clever in concealing it from their gf/wifes/etc so that they don't rub it into their face
exactly the same answer as to the question whether all men masturbate or watch internet porn
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All straight men with a pulse look at women. of course there's looking and there's looking. more domesticated men hide the drooling. It's important that women don't misunderstand this as dissatisfaction with themselves.
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Relax, and don't be too serious when you catch your man looks at women. How 'bout putting the blame on the women???
watch this:
https://youtu.be/cMsraH5KJTo?si=ERiJodhNC7I536EE
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watching men or women is not a problem. the problem is the respect for the person who is with you. so respect dictates that you control yourself and avoid looking at others in front of your partner. if that person doesn't show respect, then there is no point to be with him/her. it is that simple.
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Yes, they do. Don't nag about it or you will be the problem.
When my dear husband is looking at other woman, it doesn't mean he's attracted to the person. In his mind, he's thinking
- seriously? How does she walk in those shoes?
- how many jobs done???
- she looks like someone from the office, didn't know that she was a party enjoyer!!
For me, if it bothers me that night, I play his game as well. Look at other men, not in a mean way, just do some people watching. It starts up a new conversation and leads to different subjects!!!
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@Xshoqueen
"When my dear husband is looking at other woman, it doesn't mean he's attracted to the person. In his mind, he's thinking
- seriously? How does she walk in those shoes?
- how many jobs done???
- she looks like someone from the office, didn't know that she was a party enjoyer!!"
I just want to say this seems pretty naive. Most men look at women because they look hot, not because we care about their fashion sense!!! It likely means that we are attracted to them even if it can be at a superficial level.
It's just eye candy and really not a big deal. No need to overreact to something which is natural. Who doesn't like to look at beautiful scenery?
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MJ1
11 yrs ago
@Xshoqeen, personally I don't think that...I usually look at women because:
1. they have a smoking hot body; and
2. are they cute as well as having a smoking hot body.
Honestly, they way some women dress, it would be wrong not to have a look.
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Hi MJ1, your "it would be wrong not to have a look" made me really laugh, not in a nasty way but, in a way, it's so true!!! Of course my husband has the "initial" motivation to look, if he was seriously into shoes, I need to sit down and discuss a different matter with him. I am gracefully accepting his attempt to cover up as that itself is already knowing that he knew he did something that annoys me.
I jotted down my husband's words because I know where Buddha Bar's question comes from and I didn't want her to get caught up in this looking thing when, if she is serious with this guy, there are other things to clear out of. I did the mistake of questioning this and almost lost my beloved then boyfriend just because things weren't right for me.
From my years of being with my man, I learnt
- that there is such thing as male reflex that woman will never understand. ( recently, it was scientifically proven that men DO have selective hearing due to the way their brain functions)
- and if Buddha Bar dwells on those points, she will definitely become downgraded from the cool better half that I have finally met.
- and you don't corner men as if you do, they will argue just to win the arguement regardless of the topic.
Because I have learnt that this is a minor issue in the whole picture, I didnt want Buddha Bar to be distracted by it. Yes, Men do turn around their heads when Miranda Kerr alike is around. I have learnt that it is not the only criterion that you can measure your man's loyalty and respect. Maybe give it a doubt to scientific differences and find a way to cope would be a better solutions???
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And, if this thing bothers Buddha Bar so much and she cannot find any other points in her man that is outstanding, she should call it quites. I am not being sarcastic here as every person has her or his own measurement.
Buddha Bar, I tell you, men do not hear the baby crying in the middle of the night and you will be the one that will be kicking him to wake up. Your partner needs something that makes you think, he has all his faults and quirks but there is one outstanding greatness. watching someone snoring when you are all awake in the middle of the night, it really does not give you a generous feeling!
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OP, if you take a good look at the videos below, you'll understand why a normal guy (married or not) will 100% take a look at another woman (esp. the one with the white dress, and not necessarily the 'lady boy' standing next to her). It's very interesting.
https://youtu.be/vLC4EXOOwOo?si=CL9uyDKDJZ7-M1X5
Hence, relax when your guy look at other women. It's normal, absolutely normal. Nothing wrong just to look and to fantasize a bit.
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MJ1
11 yrs ago
@Xshoequeen, glad you understand where I'm coming from. It's all in a bit of fun, a bit of eye candy never hurts anyone and if women are willing to flaunt it, I'm more than fine with spending a few secs of my time to boost their ego.
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Yes, all men look at other women
but the stupid ones let you catch them looking at other women
so, what you have is nothing out of the ordinary apart from the fact that he's one of the stupid ones!
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