White Girls' Preference

We all get irritated when Asian girls prefer "white men", but how come we don't get irritated when "white girls" only date "white men"? I hardly EVER see a white girl date a Chinese guy.

Hey BJCC! Interesting post you made!


True, people always talk about the "Asian girl dating, marrying" white guys. I myself dated and married a white guy but, I had no agenda of doing so, it happened that way. And I wish that people will not look at our marriage that way for our kids sake.


I know a girl who married an Asian guy, she thought that they were more of a man under the rubbish people project of a typical Asian man!


Anyway, point is, I hope that this, I'm White/ you're Asian BS goes away one day, especially in regions where it claims to be an international city. I hope people will just accept that some interracial couples were just meant to be and if they are happy, give it faith that it's real. I'm sure that if a person is breathing longer than 35 years, they'll know what's real and fake!

It is nonsense. People must be allowed to be with whom they please. It is quite ignorant to say otherwise.


Having said that, when people specifically say one race is bettereither their own or another, that is saddening and quite ignorant.

I totally agree with you girls! I am glad there are sensible people in HK like you guys!

I'm a white guy, married to an Asian girl (HK Chinese). We've been together for over thirty years, married for more than twenty years. Neither of us set out with a mixed-racial relationship as an intention, it just happened that way


When we started, there was widespread discrimination against such marriages, particularly by local Chinese. It even took a little while to win over her parents and family. The problem on that side was primarily the image that Western guys had (correctly so, in most cases) of being "loose" with local women; they would date them, have sex with them, and then at some point move on to the next girl. Chinese did not see Western guys as "sincere". Once that was overcome, the rest was inconsequential.


There was also a perception (again, correct in many instances, although not always) that the Chinese girls who were with Western men were of "loose morals". It was assumed that they were after money, and little better than prostitutes. This was a hard stigma for my wife to endure, but fortunately that image (and the reality that sometimes lay behind it) has largely faded.


Toiday]mixed marriages are MUCH more common, and MUCH more accepted. No one really pays much attention to a white guy with a Chinese girl.


White women with Chinese men is a much rarer phenomenon, although not unheard of (I've known a few couples like that). There are various reasons behind this, mostly to do with cultural tendencies (too complex to get into in a post here). It's often a harder relationship to make work, although for those few who do manage, the marriages can be good ones.


There is one phenomenon I have witnessed often in mixed marriages. The two people often really live in two distinct, but parallel, relationships. They each have a fundamentally different perspective on the relationship that they are actually in, and often mis-interpret each other. Sometimes such relationships "work" in spite of the differences, but I find it a bit sad. If both people do not share BOTH languages, along with fairly extensive exposure to the other person's culture, this is very, very likely to be the case.


It used to bother me when I would see relationships like that, feeling that each person was somehow being "cheated", but I no longer feel that way. If both people are happy with what each perceives their relationship to be, who is to say it is in any sense wrong? The only risk is that one day a situation may arise where the differences emerge in some irreconcilable way. I've seen that happen, too, and it often ends the marriages.


In the end, EVERY marriage is about a relationship between two people.. Whether they are from the same background or different, it comes down to how they are with each other, how much love and care exists in the relationship and how well or poorly they communicate and give and yes, sometimes compromise. A common language and culture makes things easier, but in no way guarantees a good marriage. Neither does coming from different backgrounds doom the marriage. In the end, it always comes down to two individuals. In my case, I wouldn't trade my wife for the world. I speak her language fluently, an she speaks mine, and while I believe I understand her world better than she does mine, we have more than enough in common to have a strong and lasting relationship. We'll grow old together, finishing each others sentences as old couples do. That is about all I would wish for any couple (aside from the children!).