How to spice up married life?

I'd love some ideas on how to keep a marriage interesting. We have a house full of children and pets and have been together for a very long time and we are so busy that we don't have enough time together.

Get some nice new bed linen from www.sleepnaked.hk and start sleeping naked.


Failing that, set aside one night a week when you go for dinner. Arrange someone to look after kids and pets for 3 hours while you get out. Worth it even if it costs you quite a bit.

I'm serious - my wife and I went through a stale patch a few years back and we joind a likeminded group in HK and we regularly engage in Threesome activities.


It may not be for everybody, but hey this is the 21st century and whatevet floats your boat right !

"Take the dogs for a walk each morning/evening & hold hands"


"Remembering how much sex/fun you used to have"


These are death sentences if I ever read one! I mean, seriously, when you need to be reminded to "hold hands", the marriage ship has pretty much sailed.


I think is better to find face the problem by killing its roots. I don't fully believe that kids are the reason why they are not like before. Neither I believe that they are too busy all the time. Maybe one of the parties is making he/herself busy so not to come to a house full of noise and unhappiness.


I wonder what has changed since you two lovebirds were married, but first we need to find out who "wants out". Sorry for being blunt but I don't need a PhD is Psychiatry to figure out that one of you wants out, but he/she is afraid to say so, maybe even to him/herself.


In this circunstances, when one wants out the other wants to save the boat. I am older than an 8yo kid which means that by now I already figured out that the person who wrote this post is the person who wants to save the marriage. And by writing about it on an internet forum we can guess the "self-steem" fiesta that this person is having right now.


Without knowing much about this case, I want to ask some questions. For the sake of clearness (I am tired of typing he/she, himself/herself) I will assume that the writer is the woman and the person who wants out is the man:


a) Did you put on weight? This is a simple, yes/no answer. And nope, "but he also put weight", "but I had children", "but life is hard" won't cut in as answers.


b) Did he clearly expressed that he wants out? If so, why are you keeping an unhappy person by your side? If not, did you ask him whether he wants to stay in the relationship?


c) If you are unhappy, did you clearly articulate so to your husband? If so, it seems clear that he did not respond in a satisfactory manner so: Why do you want to be in an unhappy relationship? (another question would be whether she is into S/M).


This whole thing is not about spicing up a marriage. Whatever the writer wants to delude to think, this is more about trying to save a marriage.

Loyd, Loyd, Loyd, what a humble answer..and so unexpacted...

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Check out the new lingerie shop in SoHo called Showtime ! They got great books on how to spice up relationships / marriage and even ideas on creative dates ! Good collection of lingerie, toys, games, accessories and sexy costumes ! They got this water proof book called Aqua Kama Sutra that you can surprise your partner by throwing it into the bubble bath along with a water proof toy = ) I read from somewhere that to keep a marriage interesting and spicy, best is to treat everyday like a new date and surprise each other one way or the other .... even putting a little sweet note here and there would make each other smile ! Be playful and wicked ! Oh there's a book called "Sexy Mama" at the shop which I think might be for you !


Wish you a Happy Spicy Marriage forever and ever ! = )

give:

each other a kiss just because


flowers just because


gifts just because


seduce each other


and yes a weekend away from screaming kids and pets. u dont hve to go out of hk.

I like how underneath the question "How to spice up married life?" it says "Go To Bottom".


Just a suggestion.

Actually the holding hands idea is not so dumb.


There are lots of little rituals that couples used to do, but kinda forget to in the fast paced/busy lives we lead. It is good to reconnect with some of these old habits. Even if it is breakfast in bed for mum, or something different you can share.


Spend time with your partner and make themfeel special, wanted, cherished.

Massages can be part of this, as can a weekend away from the kids.

You can count lingerie in this, but I think I read somewhere that women tend to by lingerie for themselves (so they feel nice), and men tend to buy lingerie for themselves (buy stuff that they think thier wife will look sexy in, forgetting that she may not feel sexy dressed like a ______). My wife likes to take me clothes shopping with her. That way we are both happy.

great ideas. thanks!