Verbally Negotiating a Relationship?

Wow! No wonder there are so many single women. How about income level and sperm count? :-) Anyway, I guess I'm a weed.

I can't speak for what ever girl can do, but after 6 months of my relationship with my current boyfriend, we decided to not see other people. That was as far as we got with future plans.


Aside from me moving to Hong Kong with him, we didn't start making plans about marriage and stuff till now, four years after we said we wouldn't see other people. I spose that leaves things open ended and unsure, but we had so much fun, marriage just didn't come up really.

As a guy, I have to ask. When you say at the bigining, do you mean on the first date?


Use of the 'L' word or commitment etc, right at the outset will worry most normal men.


And if you ever meet an man who is talking about marriage on the first date you should run a mile.

I think most people use some kind of mix of the two. You can be looking for a long term relationship, but that doesn't mean that you want the person your on a date with to be your husband/wife! I think it's best to be honest whichever way you look at it, whether your in it for the fun, or whether you want something long term.


After my bf and I had been dating for a month, we had 'the conversation' and mutually decided to be exclusive, I also took a risk and asked him if he thought I was the kind of girl he could fall in love with (usually I would have taken being esclusive as enough commitment talk for one conversation), luckily he said he'd already started falling in love with me!


But if anyone spoke to me about marriage on the first date I wouldent trust their judgement, I dont think it would be at all smart to make that kind of decision when you hardly know someone.

Neither. Regarding A), why would I want to ask some schumuck I met in a bar/net/club where anything is going in my life only a month after meeting him?

B)Somethings in life, like a relationship, will come with time, rather than a verbal

"announcement".


Every serious relationships I have ever been in, it was a mutual decision in terms of where "this is going". You get to know someone then you just kinda know where this is going. At least, in a mature relationship, that is how it works.