I know it's a stupid question, but I really wonder how and where to find a decent man to have a proper relationship with.
I feel I'm pretty decent as a person, and I'm more than decent looking, I have everything to offer, I just don't get to meet anyone through my job, maybe I'm not out often enough, I don't even get to meet anyone when I go out with my friends !
Is it Hong Kong, or is it me ?
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it really does depend on where you actually go with your friends etc, Its not too difficult to meet people but of course what you need to be wary of is that if you go out with a gang of girls then not many guys would actually approach you for example.
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Hold on a tick....If you are a woman and you go out with a group of girls, how would that drive men away??? Aren't men more intimidated if a girl is with another guy???
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What your job? Maybe you can attend some netowrking function, or group activity where you can meet more friends in both genders.
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Thanks for your responses. It's all interesting, I see how you make sense, but to me, it's easier said than done.
I do go out with my girlfriends from time to time (the truth is I do not go out every Friday night/weekend), people do check me out but they just don't do more than looking/watching.
Guess I'm a bit shy, or maybe my ego is a little too big. I just cannot bring myself to go and walk to a man.
Ok, so it's me...
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Meeting someone online might not be such a bad choice as long you state your expectations well in your profile and provide a decent, and not misleading picture as well. Just dont conduct the whole relationship online as one doesn't replace the other.
I've tried it recently, only to meet friends and it's been great so far. Never though I'd try that in the past as I've always thought you'd only get the 'dos' there i.e wierdos and desperados.
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If someone came to talk to me, certain I would have no problems handling that. My problem is how to get the whole thing started, but I guess the root of the problem is where are they?
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I would say, first, they didnt do it on purpose. Relationship bound to happen if the right chemistry kicks in. Besides being single is not like you are having diseases. You just have to go along and enjoy the ride.
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I have the same problem. I am sometimes a bit shy because I am not a very articulate person. I want to meet some folks and join a club so that I can get networked and connected with some decent folks here.
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join a sporting organization or try something like a photography course. seriously. if you look in the HK magazine, there are always little ads for these types of things. i love ultimate frisbee and, although i have yet to venture out to find it, i know there's a league here. that's one way to go. i've also recently heard there's that trendy new speed dating thing happening somewhere here as well, although i'm not sure where. there's always church if you're religious. this might sound kind of silly but hang out at page one or starbucks, even some of the trendier supermarkets. i always see (what appear to be) singles at places like these. hope that helps a little.
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Thanks guys.
Speed dating. Honestly I wouldn't go for it. What if none's good for me, I'd be stuck there and having to talk to each and every one of them! Worse!
I'm picky, I know.
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I found there is a problem to start a relationship in HK as well. I work date and night but I do go out for a drink with my friends sometime. I meet a lot of guys and gals but it is hard to find someone that match. =(
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Exactly, there seems to be much more than serious relationships in Hong Kong, and people are very open to other options.
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Not totally agree with you girls. There're some men in HK who seem to have got over the novelty stage (change gfs frequently) and who just want to get into a fulfilling relationship as well. I have just met one! So, always be hopeful.
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really ladies and guys i am as of now a single man i was in a 2 year relationship of hell. look i may be in shanghai but i do know one thing if a woman is checkin me out anywhere espescially the bar im probably gonna smile and look back.
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It is hard to meet men who do more than flirt. Why can't they just go the next step??
next step?? you ladies have no idea what i would give for a woman to want to go to the next step. i hate playing games. and i figured out that if you really wanna meet guys just talk to them forget all that stuff. if they say no relax take a deep breath and tell yourself your better than he is. so really all im saying is this there are guys out there that would die for a woman like you i know cuz im one of em. hey have a great day. by the way my names casey
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I would say join a charity/volunteer organization, there is a lot of people in China/HK that can use a little support, the people you will find there usually are quite nice and not about getting into your panties all at once. It gives you time to check out who is in there without the whole hassle of the barscene and putting off blokes.
While you are doing that you are also helping people so that should at least make you feel better about yourself and chances are that some other volunteer might strike your fancy.
Bottom line, do something social and society will give you back something. I know that is how I met the love of my life.
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i am a decent guy and I am looking for g.f.........want to have a chat?
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I am sooo glad I'm not at the "looking" place in life anymore! I would like to add the following observation, though: to find someone you have something in common with, think about where they might be hanging out. For example, if you look in an art class, you'll find someone artistic; if you look in a gym, you'll find someone athletic; if you meet someone in a church, they'll be a religious person; if you look in a bar . . . you'll find someone who likes the bar life. I suggest you find some place or activity that reflects your values, something that is true to your own interests, then find a class or club etc. that has people who have the same interests. If you meet someone, fine, but if you don't you can still have fun doing something that's true to your own self. I've met a lot of friends through volunteer work and special interest groups over the years, and these friends I have something in common with often become my closest friends. The bar pickup scene is fun for some, but it's not for everyone. By the way, here's a humorous video on this subject at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9x7Hg_3PG8&mode=related&search=
Hope you enjoy, la!
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wow, how did this post 3 times?!! crazy!
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