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What does it mean if my boyfriend keep saying that he has problem and has lots to think ? Does he want to ditch me but pretend to be a nice guy ?

I did ask him but he did not give me an answer. Maybe he uses this is an excuse to ask me to left. He said he's not happy with his life. What does it mean ? Does it mean he's not happy with me ?

not that complicated ... he just wants some time on his own. Tell him "u know where to find me if u need to talk".

Appreciate your advice. I do hope he really means it. Actually, I had already left him alone and he can as much time as he wants. No plan to contact hime anymore. I hadn't said "u know where to find me if u need to talk". Because I know he ever and never told me what's going on with him.

Well, I tell myself I have to head up and move on. Set up my routine and back to life without him. Not easy but not the first time to have broken heart. Numbness. I swear I will not fall in love again. Too much heart broken and too pain. Can't take it anymore.

How long were you seeing each other?


If it wasn't long, then telling a guy you love him (too early) is a sure fire way to kill a relationship.

I even say I love him. I just say I like him. Well, I paid very high cost to know the different between like and love. I really know that I just like him, not love. I would like to develop a stable relationship with him. All I want is someone to share ups and downs, give and gain support and encouragement. I thought he has the same thought. Perhaps, he's not. Well, after reading you guys reply, I guess I know what to do. Just leave it there. Back to my life and don't give any hope. I really don't want to be disappointed again and again. Very sick of a broken heart. How come its so difficult to have someone to share the life. I don't ask for a million or a handsome guy. What make it so difficult ? He needs space and so do I. Everyone needs space. I gave him lots of lots space. He can do whatever he wants. I ever and never stop him doing something or force him to do something he doesn't like.

You know what. He said exactly the same. He needs to short it out. Okay, he can use his rest of his life to short it out. I am not interested anymore.

I want to cry out loud but just couldn't. Anyone can help me cry out ? Just feel something press in my heart and want to take it out, flow it away.

hey, dont feel bad, keep positive - there will be a day you meet guys that really treasure you for who you are. I went through relationships and when I look back - there are guys that dont worth the tears. Nothing wrong - guys are nice but if he doesnt invite you to share his inner world then let it be.


And to be honest - a guy that is unable to handle problems - his mind is not ready for relationship. It is not his priority list yet. It doesnt mean he wont date anyone (afterall they need sex) but it just mean that he is not into being a caring romeo for someone - which means he will take but he will not be bothered to give. So better to leave him alone - as you wont get a fair deal with this guy at this moment of his life.

sfsr > as a girl, feel sorry for you but i got to be honest to tell you "another one bite the dust", that the guy just wanna back off on the relationship. So what you can do? leave him, move on. Cry if you wanna cry, but still...move on. He will know how to contact you if he really wants to again. If he look for you again, think a bit if you still interest, but most probably he will not .. then so what?


Quoted from you:

"I would like to develop a stable relationship with him. All I want is someone to share ups and downs, give and gain support and encouragement. I thought he has the same thought."


I am very sorry to tell you again, this theory doesnt work in much relationship these days. If you really want to share up and downs , find a good girl friend or a bunch of girlie friend to share different ups and downs, support and encouragement. Men are not create to do that for women anymore. You need friends rather than a lover if you want to "SHARE". A lot of partners are not really here to share anymore. Relationship for them is someone you can share happy times, when you bored, or when you want a drink, lonely or sex.


Many people nowadays do not have the patience to listen to their partners anymore, they are far too selfish and busy to be your "only other half" . Most of guys want relationship for "fun and interests" but not sharing your burden. That's straight forward, so find a guy for "happy relationship" and find some other friends "to share" problems. If women are not that demanding, they will not get that hurt, right? it will work easier that way, if you cannot change the world or your men, change your attitude, then you will not feel hurt or heartbroken that badly. If you keep being stubborn and want some "greatest love" relationship, you will get disappointed, many times, may be you finally find one, or even may be not .


I am not being cynincal or negative. Actually to teach you how to be postitive and be happier. Good luck.

2am in the morning couldn't sleep. I think I am idiot. I believe whst he said. When we first met, he said he would like to do lot of thing with me. I believe him, really do. I thought it means he has a plan for us in future. I thought we will go travelling. I thought we will do lots of things together. Well, nothing happen. Not know him long, just about a year. He said he has a psychological problem - depression. He's not happy with what he got. He's alone for so long and don't know how to handle a relationship. Bullsh*t. Everything is bullsh*t. These few day. He kepts email me but no calls. What deos it mean ?? Obviously, he uses me to kill his time. When he needs me, he contacts me. When he doesn't want me in, he said I need time to short it out. I got it. I don't think he will call me or I will call him either. I control myself too well, So far. We haven't spoke for more than 30 hours. I am counting the days to see how long I will be recovered. I tell myself I will head up and move on. Forget that jerk. I hope I can smile and happy again. I swear after him, I really don't want to have any relationship. I will stary for single till I die. I couldn't handle anymore. No matter how can I tired, I fail. No matter what, I deserve no one to appreciate me or cherish me.

sfsr> start to forgive and forget, no point feeling sad over somebody's mistakes.


Dun count days, time minutes...grow up, you got better things to do.


Sorry to be blunt, but everyone gonna learn sometime.

Sfsr,


It's time to let go and move on.

Hard as it may be, accept that you and him were not meant to be. Have faith that there IS someone out there for you, and believe that not all men are b*stards. Cheer up!

Hi manicair, yup yous him sounds mine. I have no idea what' wrong. I guess I did something wrong and upset him. Yes, I did. I mess up, screw up because I am not soft enough to keep him.


Beancurd, I really don't think I will have another one. I guess he's my last ride. No hope, no faith to be with anyone for my rest of life. I am try to be strong. I don't know what to do. But I know I will not contact him again. There's no point to do so if he doesn't like me anymore. I guess he just fed up with or enough me. All spark, passion and love gone. That's it. It's an ending. If my life also end it now, it will be great for me. Seriously