Posted by
Pritt
19 yrs ago
A friend of mine broke up with her BF because he cheated on her with a woman who is 20 years older than him. Why would man hook up with someone that can practically be his mother? I think a few years older is fine, BUT 20 YEARS!!! Are they really that more attractive??
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I heard they are more self assured and are great lovers.
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balzac, you took the words right off my keyboard. ditto! ;-)
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age is only a figure, they can still be young at heart.
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Pritt
19 yrs ago
Self assured, I can understand that, but great lover... surely anyone can be a great lover no matter how old she is.
I just find it shocking that guys would find a woman that is 20 years older so attractive that he's willing to give up his 26 years old girlfriend.
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Pritt
19 yrs ago
mid-levels: I know, but that figure is a bit too huge to be convincing in this case.
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well, age is not everything and if they fell in love with a woman, it just happen. may be the woman even didn't mention her age and if she is asian it's difficult to judge anyhow.
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pritt: well, basically you are right that 20 years is quite a lot. but i have friends were the gf's are 10 to 12 years older and it works perfectly alright.
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Pritt
19 yrs ago
Nemesis: I think it's more the age gap thing that I can't quite get my head round. Yes, I totally agree with that sometimes relationships are built on more than just physcial attraction, but it would has to come in somehow somewhere right? And we are talking about an age gap of 20 years!!
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pardon me nemesis, i can't resist - if i may:
pritt, surely you know what a MILF is? well the G stands for "Grand-" ...
;-D
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shaq
19 yrs ago
I think attraction has nothing to do with age and, for that matter, (huge) age differences. As NEMESIS rightly points out, people fall for others for diverse reasons, including weird ones (i.e., those beyond comprehension). But, at the end of the day, it is the connection and the satisfaction (they have when they're with each other) that counts.
Btw, it is a generally accepted/known (in some circles) that older women are more caring and understanding. In other words, they see the younger bf/husband as their child and care for him as they'll care for their own children. Most men like to be cared for, so.....
.... I'm yet to experience that care.... :P.
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hmmmmm...am recalling my one boy-toy relationship several years back...nope! nosirree. uh-uh. no way jose. did NOT treat him like my child. ;-)
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I don't think that all younger bf are automatically become a toy boy. this only depends on the older woman if they see the bf as a toy boy. luckily not all of them do so.
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shaq
19 yrs ago
Correction here, folks!
By bfs being cared for by an older women, I did not mean the bf being treated as a boy-toy. Perhaps, I meant being loved to the MAX... :-)
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that's exactly the point, mid-levels - the older woman is the other half of the equation too...and it's HER choice how to treat the relationship. don't generalize, and don't assume. and why are we speculating only on the younger man's p.o.v.? maybe the older woman with whom pritt's friend's ex-bf ended up has her own reasons for hooking up with the guy (pritt's words, not mine). i wonder how that relationship will end up. keep us posted, will you pritt? that's how we'll know the answers to your questions.
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Pritt - why does this bother you so much??
Let look at it another way, whilst your 26 yr old friend may have youth on her side, that does not necessarily mean she is more attractive than a woman in her 40's.
Also, at 26, you have yet to grow into yourself an attain that inner confidence that a mature woman has. Once you hit your late 30's and 40's, you have been through all sorts of crap and have a little perspective on life.
Perhaps he just got a little bored with his vapid, young thing and wanted to spend time with someone a little more exciting.
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Miss P
You make it sound as if loving outside your age band is a pschological disorder.
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The older woman has what the younger does not have and that is what the guy needs. Simply like that. No matter what could be: maturity, wisdom or care or else what!
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Look Pritt, and I am sorry I almost called you Prat - no offense, but I personally am outraged at the fact you feel so much outrage. Nobody so much as blinks an eyelid when girls 20-40 or more
years a man's junior are in such a relationship, but gasp an older woman! Shock horror. When I was 19 one of my 24 year old male friends went out with a 50 year old woman, and then married her, much to the shockof my then boyfriend. I actually think it means that they can both see beyond all the BS.
It is all in the mind sweetheart, just like intercultural relationships are.
Why can't a woman of any age go out with a man of any age?????? Men do it all the time? I hear that you are thinking, I am young therefore I am more attractive, but in the end the mind is what is most attractive. A prime example for this would be Prince Charles and Camiila Parker-Bowles...now who would say she was more attractive than Princess Diana was?? Probably nobody BUT she was 19 when she married, and no match for Camilla with regards to experience and maturity. I an not a great advocate of that women or of that man for that matter, but it is a classic example of how age and beauty is in the MIND of the beholder.
Hands up all who agree!!!!
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I agree with Flabbergasted. Well said.
As for Doc's comment, I think we all know at least one extremely attractive older woman who could knock the socks of any young guy.
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When you are 40 you are old enough to be a grandparent...even younger than that it is entirely possible...
If I have a daughter at 16 and then again in turn she has a daughter at 16 and so on....it only takes a 50 year old to be with the 18 year old grandaughter of a 34 year old woman. And some people at 50 do not even give the impression of being 40....
Depends on the people and the relationship. It is all based on respect and a lot more...
Personally I prefer classical stuff to modern furniture etc. Just because it is older doesn't make it any less attractive....
Also the same goes for cross cultural relationships....everyone relax a little more....
What if I am white at 46 going out with a very attractive black 28 year old....(I am not either 46 nor do I have a man of 28 of any denomination but it could happen)...what does that mean to everyone...???? What it should mean is that you hope I am happy, and for sure if I wasn't I would not stay in that relationship.
There are many couples that look "perfect" together...these are the ones with cracks in them...
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Well especailly asian woman look much younger than their age.. i met a 43 yrs old woman that look 28-30 adn very well conserve. Older asian woman are very attrative and experienced . i mean they know what they want not only physicaly but also in life.. these woman are often divorced and financialy stable
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you can not compare this. these are two different ball games. you might even take a hooker which you would never accept as a gf.
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lulu
19 yrs ago
There is another started by Tykey saying older woman got difficulty looking for the right age guy...and this thread say older woman are attractive...get younger boy , etc...
I think yes, people might find older women attractive, as i am 39, i met a lot of younger men interest in me, but then, they just looking for exciting "hot" experience, cannot say "just sex" but most of them have this fascination. Not really looking for a "longer" term of relationships.
Therefore, i can say Yes, older women may be attractive, but then whether they got better chance of getting the right partner or met better guys? No. peroid
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owner
19 yrs ago
Pritt if it was me, it is nothing because of age. t is just that kind of charm some men go for.
I was 18 when I got involved with a 42 year old man who dumped his heiress/beauty queen in favour of me. He never got married as I was always in the past joking to him about my being underage. Thus it is just me he will be married to he reckons.
I am seeing a gorgeous guy who dumped his whinging whining demanding young insecure girlfriend.
I wonder if that is you.
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Younger men with older women.
Young, attractive females with older, unattractive, but WEALTHY men.
Sounds familiar???
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;-) ezekiel, that was exactly the bottom line. we were totally comfortable around each other, and at that particular two-year stretch in my life he was exactly what i needed. the sequel is that we are now the closest of friends.
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Pritt
19 yrs ago
owner: ??? think you got the wrong person.
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go, momo, go! ;-) and congratulations on the impending bundle of joy.
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As for older women being more attractive than women 20 years younger:
No, I don't think that someone a generation younger than you can go on thinking that you are physically attractive. I'm talking from experience of the 'older woman'
It is humiliating when you have been in a relationship for five years and then suddenly, when you go to kiss the guy, he actually draws back instinctively - repelled. It finally came out of the woodwork where we had both buried the 17 year age difference. Eventually, nature will catch on to the fact that the guy has all these fertility hormones dancing around wanting to be used and the woman is no longer in the dance.
- sad but true. And, no matter what the woman does to make up for the age-gap - and I did plenty - the fact of the generation gap is still there and it doesn't go away, it just becomes more obvious. Sorry but that is reality.
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hi God, congratulations! (i know this is off-topic but over in Travel & Hotels, did you decide where to go for your surprise-destination honeymoon?)
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yay!!! the BEST beach in the philippines. you'll have a terrific time! :-D best wishes and congratulations again
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No, not my preference for ladies older than me!!
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zing!
take cover, the straight shooter is back
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which Kid Know-All? they are legion in these forums! ;-)
my nanny, who was quite young and appealing in her youth, actually had her fair share of suitors in the various countries where my family was posted when i was growing up.
my son's nanny however - nope, definitely no calls or dates. <:-)
but i think sexiness is an ageless quality. not beauty, but sexiness. don't you know any women older than you who are still sexy? oh wait a minute...how old ARE you?
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i plan on being 39 for a very long time, thank you very much! ;-)
you wouldn't go on a date or sleep with, say, susan sarandon or goldie hawn? what about iman, she is allegedly pushing 50. let me cover all the races here - what about maggie cheung, she's gorgeous and ageless? even gong li, she gets even more beautiful as she gets older (just saw her in 'memoirs of a geisha').
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i forgot michelle yeoh. and i am merely ignorant of all the indian beauties there must be out there. and i haven't even covered europe yet, or the middle east. met a lovely egyptian woman some weeks ago, probably in her mid- to late-40's - i wouldn't mind looking like that when i get there
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(yes, i edited! ;-) as for my dearly departed nan...well i think she died *thinking* she was still sexy! that's the kind of senility i'd like to have when i go - sexy in my own head)
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okay fine, i can't think of a sexy 80 year old. but lots of 40s and 50s around.
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no maybe not but 10 more years is still a good run, and a lot longer than some younger people have
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very true. she, and ursula andress - two actresses that did not age very well
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true, but to someone in their 20s we are as old as the hills!
still, it's a nice thought that perhaps someday, like these lucky older women here, i too might end up with a much younger lover. nice to know that it's possible down the road ;-)
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What about you, Shady, are you physically perfect?
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That's a fair and honest answer, Shady. In answer to your question: I believe that my face is more beautiful now than when I was twenty but my body isn't.
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Actually Shady makes me laugh and at least he is honest.
True, things start to drop and deteriorate as we get older but personality and vigour are often what make people really beautiful and that is ageless.
Frankly, I would rather be with a fun 50 yr old than a thick 20 yr old.
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Well, I plan to be rather hot at 42. That said, my partner will be 51 by then so he better not let himself go!
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that's exactly what i say to my guy. ;-)
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rats
19 yrs ago
vuvlic, what if you are already a fun 20 yr old ;)
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Then I would say stop bragging, lol!
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Any man that should say, he prefers older women to young is either a liar or something seriously wrong with him. Let me call a spade a spade. All men prefer younger women, but they might not want to hurt their partners feelings. Suffice to say as long as we are not talking about Gary Glitter or people like him.
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And, all women prefer younger men. So, what to do? Haha!
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This is interesting as I have met a man much younger than me, 7 yrs difference 3 weeks ago. I am Chinese and he is Caucasian. We clicked very well right from the 1st date and seems we both have the chemistry (he makes me laugh so much). However, I am starting to doubt and am trying to step back to see things clearer. We both are professional and he is mature for his age ( at least that is the impression I have till today). I tried to slow the pace abit by not making the initial call or sms as I am not sure exactly where we are going. Now my question is how do I know if he wishes to develop something more with me. Do men get confused as much as women? If they do, how can we tell?
Any man care to comment?
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Thanks God, for your comment. I think I am the one who is confuse and not him. He has a clear head and is always sure what he wants. We have been spending some time together and it was really great. Conversation is good, atmosphere is very relaxing and fun. But I guess I just have to be open minded and see how things go.
The thing is I always wonder, why pick someone older when you can find someone younger. I must be such a superficial person. ha...
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This really hits the nail on the head, re this "more attractive" nonsense.
http://www.bobfromaccounting.com/10_0604/delusional.html
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Topol
19 yrs ago
Just seen the title of this thread and have'nt read any responses but in answer to the question posed..
Absolutely, Positively and Unequivocally.
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momo8> I am very happy for you and thank you for your lovely experience. As for me, I am a practical person. It is very difficult for me to fall in love and when I do, I always love with all my heart. Sad to say, when there is a huge diff. in age, it is unlikely we can have the same wavelength in my opinion. That is the reason why I hesitate. I might not feel it now but I know I will in the long run as we date more. You know how it is like when you first meet someone, you can never see where you two dont fit, you only see what is possible. And I am beginning to feel it now even though he is still sweet as usual.
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