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mumbo
17 yrs ago
Cheated on my bf few mths ago for the first time.Hated it&feel terrible.Should I confess?
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don't confess if you are only looking to make yourself feel better...does he need to know? i agree with flashback, def tell him if he's going to find out from someone else. i'd try to take on board the lesson from this (cheating = guilt eating me up internally!) and figure out what lead me to cheat. did boredom /alcohol / self esteem issues lead you to cheat? resolving those issues would be more productive than spilling the beans to your boyfriend. are you sure you dont want out of your relationship? good luck figuring it all out :)
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'living a lie??' hhhmmmmm....isn't that a little melodramatic? is it noble to fess up because of an idealistic notion of love? i dunno. I guess i think i'd like to know...but that knowledge would probably ruin what might be a perfectly happy relationship.
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mumbo
17 yrs ago
Been with BF for 2yr,not living together.He never mentioned about future together.I love him wanna have future with hime.
I asked and he said he not sure what he want.
All along i never cheated on him.
Then I met this guy(colleague)on a business trip
and thats it. I cheated and feel terrible.
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Keep quiet unless you have a super laid back relationship. It's Bangkok, he's probably doing the same. Don't worry about the moral minority here. I'm surprised they're not telling you to self flagellate:-) We haven't had the check you've not got AIDs chorus yet.
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Your boyfriend obviously isn't living up to your expectations. two years should be long enough for him to figure out if he wants to make a commitment. you say he isnt sure of what he wants, well, think about what you want. was cheating on him a symptom of feeling insecure in your relationhship? sounds like what you really want is someone to build a life with who values you enough to make you a part of his future plans. stop wasting time with this schmuck if he isn't making you feel valued!
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Wakatipugt .... Your boyfriend obviously isn't living up to your expectations .... that's right, blame him.
Fact is you're obviously not living up to his expectations either
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glad you agree bandiet...and yeah, good point, it's impossible to live up to the expectations of a guy who doesn't know what he wants.
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Dear Mumbo. if you're doing it just to make yourself feel better then don't.
From personal experience, you might as well call it quits with your bf as this indiscretion is a sign of the beginning of the end. It is not a one off thing, no matter how bad you feel about it or try to justify it.
Good luck.
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blazac is right , woman and men both play this game , they feel they are not getting enough out of their relationship , so instead of putting the soul searching effort to make it work , they innitiate an affair or whatever thinking that love will save the day , riding in on its horse. Mumbo , your testing your bf and you blew it , but alternatively you had an affair because you suspect he is too. Either way .... its over. So you may aswell at least tell him and see which way the wind blows.
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ok , everyone put there cards on the table.
1) Who has cheated in any sense of the word?
2) Who informed their partner afterwards?
Fess up time!
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Hi,
I wouldn't be able to live 1 day without telling.
I believe the only "right" action is to say it. I'm however not saying this is the best thing to do to keep him.
But, I wouldn't be able to go through normal activities and conversations with my love with this in the back of my mind.
So just for the sake of being 100% clean, I would say it. And I think, you are doomed to say it one day of later in your life. Better be sooner.
bye
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shaq
17 yrs ago
Confess and perish .... a word to the wise is ... (you know the drill).
Enuff respect
ShaQ
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