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ador
16 yrs ago
Good or not? what do you guys think? Some people say that it's not good to have the office romance, I do agree with it but you know when it come, you cant run away.
I'm interested in my colleague in other department, we alway winking at each other, but we seldom talk (nearly no talks), not easy to have a chance to chat. what should I do next? Please advise...
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ador
16 yrs ago
Thanks guys, I'm a girl by the way, Yea, I guess i do need to stay away from it.
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I have a habit of winking at waiters & waitresses, doormen, barmen etc, just as I'm saying thank you, sometimes I'll throw in a wink and a smile. Doesn't mean I like them, doesn't mean I want to pursue anything with them. If you've not had the chance to talk to him, and are basing your attraction to him on a few winks, then I'd say leave it. Sayings like "don't dip your pen in the company ink" didn't come about for no reason.
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MJ1
16 yrs ago
I don't think an office romance is that big a deal these days. Given employees don't stay very long at one employer anymore, it's unlikely that you both will be colleagues for too long. Furthermore, it seems you both don't work together on any projects anyway, so again I don't see that it's a big deal. Office romances are common.
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Steadfast rule folks really ought to stick with: Don't crap where you eat.
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I disagree. Go for it. You are all adults and it doesn't need to end unhappily.
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I agree with Nemesis, why not explore some more before you draw conclusions? No one ask you to jump into bed with him straight away!! He may turn out someone you have no interest in after all or he may be the one you are looking for all your life.
I married my "office romance" and we live happily ever after :)
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ador
16 yrs ago
thanks everyone replying me. Well... I guess i need to know him more first, but i'm not the active gril, how can i start talking to him?:o...Not easy to catch him, but i'm sure i will smile to him everytime when i met him.
Actually, I think office romance is very common nowadays, work is a natural place to meet new people. After all, you spend at least 45 hours a week there, with individuals of similar backgrounds and interests. Relationships with co-workers can be especially tempting because hard work doesn't leave much time for socializing. And, that's why i'm single :(
jojofox,so is he made the first move or you? Thanks for supprting me. Well..I dont know what should I do at this moment. I always think that if he is interested he will make the first move, right?
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ador
16 yrs ago
sunflower lion, Thanks there I knew i should talk to him first..
btw, why do u want my email? :o
to give me some advise?? haha
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Ador, Fatkid has got a fair point. You need to think through this carefully, think about what happens if it doesn't work out - Can you bear working in the same office with him again? How is this going to affect your career (considering HK company probably has a more reserved culture)? etc.......
My "office romance" turned husband and I worked together for a while before we discover our attractions for each other. Which is why you need to get to know him before you consider a "romance"!
I'd say if he is interested, he will make the first move so don't do anything you may regret later (i.e. if he is not interested!). Don't you guys have office drinks on Friday or any other office functions where you can get to know people from other departments?
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ador
16 yrs ago
up until now, i still dont have chance to talk to him, or even meet him in the corridor. What should I do...:(
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S119
16 yrs ago
Well these days it really doesn't matter who makes the 1st move. Judging by the problems we face meeting trustworthy ppl in the real world....office does seem to be more comfortable surroundings to easily talk and romance someone without the influence of alcohol. Whether you choose to pursue him or not try not to regret it later. Good luck
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ador
16 yrs ago
S119,Thanks for your help. Yes, I will try to talk to him first.
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Stini
16 yrs ago
Hi Ador, I have the same situation with you, I met a guy in the office and we "wink" at each other for a while, but he didnt make any move. I dont know why men like this. Did you talk to him recently?
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Even if you don't make the first move, ador, at least try to give him a good opening (or several) for him to make the first move without worrying that he'll crash and burn. From his point of view, his worklife could get pretty uncomfortable if he made a move and then found out you weren't thinking of him that way at all. With all the winking going on, he may be worried that you just have an eye tick!
A woman in our office married a guy in our office; he quit and joined another company shortly after (or before, I'm not sure) the wedding. That was more than ten years ago and it obviously worked out well for them. Still, it's worth considering what would have happened if it hadn't worked out...
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ador
16 yrs ago
Hi Stini,
I read your thread and Your Situation is quite same as mine. But mine is even worse than yours, I I guess. I still didnt have any chance to talk or chat with him, cos he is not always join the company gathering, he sit quite far from me, hardly catch him on the corridor alone.
As time flies, it's has been already a few months, I really cant bare abt this situation. we still didnt break the ice but keep on "staring" at each other, I try to stay away from his eyes but I find that he was looking at me when i look up or look back. Sometimes is quite annoying...
I just dont know why he doing this and not just come up to say hi to me. It's quite crazy. Now, I stop winking/looking at him, cos i'm tired to think abt why he doing that but not just ask me out. If he is interested in me but becos of the office and not make the first move then he is the loser. It's not worth to waste my time on him. and if it;s just becos he is not into me than i dont need to care abt him anymore.
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