Private space invaded

Do you think it's reasonable to search secretively your partner's stuff when you doubt he/she is hiding something from you..I mean if you think he/she is cheating on you and you want to find some evidence specially when you think he/she is not telling you the truth..?

I disagree.


Cheating is being dishonest in your relationship. So is going through someones things in secret. I would have no issue if you told your spouse that you WILL be going through his/her things then carry it out. But doing it in secrecy is being dishonest. I personally have never snuck into my GF's medicine cabinet let along her private areas.

I personally think is rude and lack of trust if you dare to go true some one stuff ,

I was dating this guy couple of year ago, one day he asked me to stay over and I agreed,

at that time we had a wonderful night we when to bed, next morning when I woke up I found him a bit cold, we both left to work we even took the same taxi, we kiss good bye, about noon he SMS’s me calling me s**t. I was shock I call him back right away, he told me that last night when I was sleeping he when through my bag and my cell phone, I had store an SMS from one of my dearest fiends whom is a brother t o me, however the sms was 3 years old, he insulted me so bad and even make me cry over the phone I’d try to explain but he don’t listen, I was so mad first because he when over my stuff, second I had no secret lover and third he ruined our relation ship, then he call back and apologized but my hearth was broken since there were no longer trust between us, so I decided never to see him again because that was not the first time he did something like that. So my advice, have a talk to your partner don’t go over he’s stuff

If someone trusts you enough to be left alone in their house, for example giving you a key, then if you snoop then you have betrayed the trust and never deserved it in the first place.


However, if something is left in the open an you come across it purely by change, for example a note under a magnet on the fridge, or someone else's personal effects under the lounge when you are getting the ball for the dog, then you probably are in a position to say something.


But remember, as with Chalupa's case, things are not always the way they seem, although they may appear bad without plausible explanation.

Sensibly speaking, it would be a very bad idea. Let’s imagine the two possible scenarios. One, you searched his stuff and found nothing suspicious. Would you be convinced your husband didn’t cheat on you? If the other scenario happens – you found some evidence, would you feel totally guilty-free to confront him? He might turn around to attack you and you might find you’re in a situation where you seem to be the bad person.


Having said the above, to be honest, if I was you, I might wanna do the same, though I know it would be wrong.

i think protecting oneself is very important.


When you confront men - they have the strict policy of denying till they turn blue in the face even if you catch them with their pants down on top a woman...

Well, basically we human have this habbit of displaying similar behavour to adopting everyday life, a ritual or pattern if you would like to call it.


Now if that ritual/pattern breaks, something must've gone wrong. Going thru there stuff are like looking for evidence only, something to backup your statement incase the truth has been told.


So, no I don't think its a good idea.

Best is to let it all out, also I thought "confronting" is a strong words. "Sharing" would be most appreciated