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holydiver
19 yrs ago
Ok people..decided i'd share this and see what are the options for my situation.
Think im being a busybody or some sort.A mate of mine , hes obnoxious , ugly as hell , annoying and thinks so highly of himself has the most wonderful girlfriend we (close mates) ever seen.Shes funny , shes sweet , beautiful and we all are wondering ,what the bloody hell is she doing with this twat!?Worse thing is , each time we meet them for dinner or drinks , he'll always end the night with a fight with her and she'd be crying or looking all sad..honestly , someone should tell her to get out.Hes a good mate to us as times but hell , hes not treating her right.
Advise anyone?
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sorry if I sound mean, but how is this YOUR situation? sounds to me it is between your friend and his girlfriend and you should not be involved in this. If you really want to do something, just have a chat with your friend and tell him he's not treating his girl right.
But it is pretty odd to me that someone will call their friend obnoxious, ugly and annoying....why are you a friend if you think so badly of him??
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yeah..its not really my situation its just its sad
girls like that are with men like him.
He's my business partner , there are 5 of us in this
team and well as obnoxious as he is , we all work
together.
Browser yeah think i should butt out , i was just
thinking right , i reckon its because ..i must say this is horrible but she'd be better off with me..?i think i have the hots for her..anyways nuthing i can do i suppose...but i have a email address...??are you thinking what im thinking?but then what if she gets mad right? ok ok ok
will butt out...
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I forgot to mention , he's always bringing her out
everywhere!Even for our business functions.He's like showing off or something...like his trophy you know what i mean?I mean i've out with them a couple of times...boat quay , emarald hill , people , generally men ,take a second look at her , shes nice , all smily and sweet and they see who shes holding hands with and they are like haha what is she doing..no kidding ,
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and to think of it , he's a looney ,when we meet clients and have casual lunch or dinner , he'd show
our clients his gf thats on his mobile and honestly
its rather embarassing and un professional!
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KAT8
18 yrs ago
Hmmm it sounds like you are jealous that a ugly as hell guy can go out with someone as stunning as this girl. Maybe you can try to be like him and then she would go out with you.
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hmmm..if i were him..i would jealous too
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Hey Holydiver,
I think, that will be good if that is really make you feel bad, you should get a female person in your team to talk to her of course if she see things like you, is better for the sake of your friendship with this guy, on the other hand you should talk to him friendly and general about how woman are sensitive about certain moments and comments in public.
Obviously you care about this girl and I totally agreed that any lady must be treated better.
So get your female friend to talk to her
good luck
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hey thanks for you replies.Actually i talked to
her on saturday night cause we all gathered at the pub to watch soccer.And i have to say , i really pity her now.She seems to be unable to break away from this mate of mine.She told me how many times she'd try to break up with him but he ends up apologising and promising and shes all scared as well cause of temper.It was a good talk she and i had everyone else was into the game and she went to the ladies and i was coming out of the gents..so anyways guess she knows shes with someone she doesnt want to be with but she just don't know how to get out of it.It was an awkward night cause i didn't say anything i was just listening to her and when they left she didnt even s ay bye to me like usual...i've emailed her earlier this morning to apologise but she hasn't replied.Thanks guys!
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i don't think its because she loves being treated like dirt, maybe its more of too blinded by love to see they are being treated like one, or too scared to be alone, or maybe just after the guys money so shell take anything !!??!!
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puzzled , ok i may sound like im defending her and all but no i don't think shes after the money.I guess you didn't really read my earlier msg.Shes actually trying to get out of the relationship but hes doing all sorts of tricks to let it NOT happen.Anyways she replied my email , pissed off sounds like cause i complimented her saying she looked real nice on sat night and that we should go for coffee if she needs someone to talk to.I think shes got this bad idea about us white guys..im trying to let her see shes with a an asian dude thats treating her bad..anyways im not being racist or anything.No offence to anyone.Shes asia herself.So anyways im tired and i don't know what to do.Goin to meet her and my mate tonight for dinner at holland v so thats gonna be "fun".Cheers guys!
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totally agree with naima, if a woman wants out, tricks wont work out all.
holydiver, okay, maybe she's not after the money at all. so maybe she really loves your "mate".
and im with 13th apostle, dont pretend to be this nice guy saying "we can go for coffee if you need someone to talk to". come on, you're trying to win her heart. admit it. admit it. is that right?? maybe , maybe not. up to you i guess in the end.
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Bonk your mate's/colleague's girl and you are asking for a whole lot of trouble and possibly a punch in the nose, my friend.
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lulu
18 yrs ago
holydiver> i would say it is not worth the effort, man...and he is your business partner.
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Sounds like you're trying to poach that guy's girlfriend.
If she was unattractive and he was treating her badly, would you go all the way to help her, as you are doing in your current situation?
You said "he's a good mate to us" Well, then be a good mate to him back.
If you sincerely want to help without hoping for fringe benefits, then advise your friend and stay on the sidelines.
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still think its your mate and his gfs problem, not yours. i will only probably meddle if the one on the disadvantage is my "good mate". but that's me
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nande
18 yrs ago
holydiver: get a grip and find some dignity please. This girl is not worth it. She knows what she is into and if she is playing then please be very aware as you are being hurt now. Dump her and watch the world and truth unfold as this is not a unique nor unusal situation in this town as the poster of the 'not nice girls getting the good guys' thread will attest... it is not your concern nor business purely politics...
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hey guys.wow im surprised by the responses thanks alot.
Yeah well its been rather strange since yesterday.Apparently the girl wouldn't answer his calls and all.We went for dinner and she didnt show up.He's upset.He asked me if she said anything to me cause he saw us talking on sat night when we were at chijmes.I didn't know what to say so i said we just talked about stuff.He was all upset at work today cause shes un contactable suddenly.Then he received an email from her he told me she didn't want to see him anymore.Strange very strange atmosphere at work today.I mean i don't think it's because of me .SHe was already upset anyways right??
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nande
18 yrs ago
And surely any gf who ends such a strong relationship was really not really a gf... imho... please don't concern yourself anymore unless you need to need to go back to WC and see the next...
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holy d, guilty conscience coming into you, isnt it? with the comment "she was already upset anyways right??". maybe she does not want to see your "mate" anymore because she does not want to see you anymore too, meddling with her lovelife. ever thought of that?
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hey guys..yeah reckon you're right..i shouldnt
have meddled in the first place.So i have sort of forgotten abt it and avoid going out with them for some time.It seems they got back or something.Dont care.
Now heres the thing i was out with the boys on saturday to watch rugby in brewerks and came this beauty...but for F*(& sake her man came in a few minutes later and couldnt keep her hands off her even when shes eating.Saw her looked at me cause i guess she could tell i was starin at her from across the room or something..haha now you people are gonna think i'm crazy .. anyways hope you had a good weekend...cheers guys and ladies :)
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rescue complex confirmed - holydiver, you're a real knight in shining armor with a soft spot for damsels in distress! i hope the next damsel you meet is actually available to you ;-)
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qtpie
18 yrs ago
holydiver - I have an absolutely gorgeous friend - who happens to be funny and sweet too (your e-mail above noted). She sadly always falls for real loosers - if they're not an actor/ song writer (aka unemployed) and from LA then she's not interested. I'm trying to get her to move to Sing to met a nice man - will keep you posted lol
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qtpie
18 yrs ago
hey holy - saw "I saw you" - too cute! Am thinking you're just a hopeless romantic
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qtpie
18 yrs ago
lol mencius - no one could seriously expect to get a response from a posting on "I saw you" - hence the "hopeless" reference
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well, either there's beautiful girls everywhere holydiver goes or he just have low standard or....he's just plain horny!!
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then again, there are indeed a lot of good looking girls in sing....
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Just had this conversation with a friend who just got back from HK. There are a lot of beautiful women in HK as compared to Singapore and they dress better.
qpie - are you serious about asking your friend to move to Sing to meet nice men? I mean since when do we have them here?!!?!!
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hey
thanks for the responses!yeah well unfortunately
i don't get to see beautiful women wherever i go :)
but ah am going to be busy from next week onwards.
Lots of travelling again and maybe i'd find someone somehow on my business trips.I'm not into how they dress im more of a i dont know i just love to see tanned women , you know , like the one i saw on saturday , she looks mexican!Even the guys next to her table kept looking at her...didn;t matter to them her boyfriend was clinging by her waist!
Anyways i just want to be in love!I feel empty!
Nuthing to look forward to after work ,..cant be having beer with the boys all the time.
Well , have a good week ahead guys and gals :)
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qtpie
18 yrs ago
fresh - "dressing better" hmm depends what a guy's dress preference is. Now, perhaps I'm going to take a little flack for saying this but if a guy likes women who wear more fashionable clothes than HK women are the girls for him. On the other hand, if a guy likes women who wear a little less then he might prefer the way Sing girls dress. It's got a lot to do with what's available in the shops and the weather I suppose. Personally I think that Sing girls are generally more attractive - it's the mixture of malay chinese - just a little softer looking (I'm not asian btw).
Was I being serious about getting my friend to move here - absolutely. But you should see that in context - my friend is is half german/ half french. She's lived in Germany, France, NZ, UK and she's looking to move somewhere new again. As for the nice men - lol. The selection of men in Sing is relatively fabulous compared to what there is in London. I have met so many great guys since I moved here - can't quite believe it.
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