most relationships do not last forever, and absolutely none remain the same as they started out - not even parent-child relationships. i think the key to making a relationship last is to acknowedge and expect that it will evolve and change over time.
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tia
19 yrs ago
Nothing lasts forever as VOR said, everything and everyone changes. You have to roll with the punches and try your best to make it work.
Forever? Both of my grandparents remained married until one of them died. Is that forever?
I believe that people who wish to remain together will make it work, will find a way to work through the crap that happens and keep it together. I don't know if even my bestest mates are in my life forever, to be honest. as things and life may change one day and they will be gone.
I am going to enjoy what I have now and what I want to keep in the future, I will work at keeping close to me.
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there must be something our grandparents were doing right, that we so-called modern people aren't able or willing to do. :-)
absolutely agree with tia's plan: enjoy what is there now, and invest time and effort on the ones you want to keep in the future.
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lulu
19 yrs ago
This is a funny question.
Anyway, relationship might last forever, might not, it's always the same. People in old days and modern days are very much the same. They still cheats, affairs, homosexuality or mistress , etc. It just the old days people are more prude about things like this so they hide it, women status is different (defo not high as the women here!), and there are wars, proverty, illness and many other life crisis for them to worry about, so they do not have time to complain and divorce or seperate. Actually, i think the basic instinct of male and female has not changed much, it's just their ideas and what they desire for.
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that's very true, lulu. humans haven't changed, but their choices and reactions have.
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shaq
19 yrs ago
Nothing mortal or with mortal involvement lasts forever, and that includes relationships of all kinds. I think that's why we should live everyday happily and lovely as if there is no tomorrow.
The fact that nothing last shouldn't stop us from getting into relationship, for no one tree is a forest; that's to say, we all need someone or some people in our lives (at some point in time). Cheers, folks!!! :P.
SHAQ
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Relationships by definition and in any form, do not last forever.
Your loved one dies, your friend stabs your back, your "trusted" coworker leaving for another golden opportunity, are just examples among many on how fragile relationships are.
Life sucks? Perhaps, but it's up to *you* on making it good. Sitting on your desk, and whining about it ain't gonna get you anywhere.
My rule of thumb is to expect the best from yourself, but never expect the same from others.
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Can a relationship last forever?
Yes, I believe. Be it any kinds of relationship: friendship or romantic relationship or what ever.
I understand "forever" is when people get old together till say one or both die.
The thing is that relationships are not static, they never remain the same as the first days of their existence. Instead, they develop to different levels.
Everybody is talking about the only unchanging thing which is that everything is changing. People change, circumstances change, conditions change and then our behaviours also change.
We often ask our partners something like :" what happens to you? You've changed since I know you!"
I think the alike questions are just meaningless because not only our partners have changed, we've also changed. The change makes us and our partners behave differently in a situation which we would have behaved totally differently when we have just been together, for example, or some while ago.
So I think for those people who can live their lives together till their death, the most important skill they are able develop together is to accept their partners as they are. Else how, the relationship dies.
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tia
19 yrs ago
JC, once again, you are correct. Friendships needs just as much attention as the other relationships in our lives and our friends deserve to be loved and respected. Too many women I know (and a few men) are quick to ignore their friends when they get a new love interest and then want back in when the love goes south. Not fair.
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HK70
19 yrs ago
Relationships can last forever, but it's harder nowadays because we have options. Divorce, remarriage, singlehood, messing around are all seen as options, depending on your values. In our grandparents' time, marriage was more for family and society, and in women's case, for finances. Nowadays, relationships don't define us as much, so it's easier to start walking when things get tough. And in all relationships, things get tough at times.
Me, I've been married for 12 years (together a total of 15 years). I love him more than I thought possible, in a deeper, more meaningful way than I thought possible. And to think, I was a total cynic who never wanted to marry, thanks to nightmarish parents.
A real marriage is taking care of each other, making the other person feel valued, safe and respected. It's important to share basic values, whatever they might be for you two. And for me, it's a lot about making each other laugh through the years. Physical attraction helps get you married, but it doesn't keep you married.
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