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Posted by cecilia531720 13 yrs ago
I have been separated with a french bf 1 year ago after 2 years becoz he fell in love with another woman. After he broke up with that gal, he called me again and went to trip with me. When I was chased by someone, he said he was wrong and discovered that he loves me. He said that he will seek out advices from his friends and parents when he came back to his home town in Xmas but it turned out that he met a gal in LKF before we went to trip together and dated her in Paris in Xmas. I just know this and I am hurt. Can't sleep at night. I was totally out of control and slap him last week. He was the one i love for so long, how come he can be like that?


I am lonely here and watching tv at home at Sat night. I just try to look for someone that's not a jerk! Is all the westerners are like that?


I want to go to Speeddating party....I don't know if that sounds stupid?

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rob378 13 yrs ago
No, not all westerners are like that. I agree with you that he is a jerk, but try not to stereotype. Its not a cultural issue... there are jerks to be found everywhere from all backgrounds.


BTW, slapping your man??... I am guessing you have grown up watching too much local TV, which seems to promote the right of females to hit their partners.

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cecilia531720 13 yrs ago
I can't really control at that moment. I am not sure you know how does it feel but being cheated twice

i am suffering from depression and taking pills everyday

it is not the right of females or not. plssssssssssssssssssss

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Loyd Grossman is Miss Venezuela 13 yrs ago
cecilia531720. Everyone feels like this when relationships don't work out, you're not the only one. The feeling will definitely pass but it is normal to be tough for a short while. Men cheat on women and women cheat on men. Sometimes men cheat on men and women cheat on women. Sometimes, men dressed as women cheat on women dressed as men - but this is less frequent. What I'm trying to say is that you're not the first person to be treated badly in a relationship and you won't be the last one. My advice is to get some very hard exercise to help you relax. Don't do anything stupid.

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cecilia531720 13 yrs ago
I tried to do exercise and gym in weekend to make myself tired. I still find difficult to sleep though.

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rob378 13 yrs ago
Cecillia531720 there is no point being depressed over a jerk. All you can do is look forward, learn from your mistakes (if there were any at all), and dont lose faith that you will eventually find the right person.

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Loyd Grossman is Miss Venezuela 13 yrs ago
Cecillia531720. There's no magic cure that works over night but if you put in at least 45 minutes of hard cardio work every day (ie jogging) that should ease the pain a little. It has to because of the dopamine. Anyway, I bet if you are completely honest with yourself you feel just a tiny little bit better today. Just a tiny bit. True or not?

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CaptDave 13 yrs ago
When choosing someone it's important to focus on both the internal & external. Ask yourself, does this man share the same values as you ? It seems he is looking for a more open relationship than you are. You may match in some ways, but it seems your objectives are incompatible.


Now, if a man beats a women, everyone will suggest she leave him and/or call the police. Why would a woman think she has the right to slap a man?


His revolving door relationships and your inability to express yourself without violence suggest that both of you are rather immature.


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cecilia531720 13 yrs ago
I dun think I have the right to slap a man. But he has been cheating twice and I was waiting for his answer for 1 year since he said he dun want to ahve a gf yet. However, when he promised me to ask his friends opinion, it turned out that he dated a gal to travel in Paris. When he came back, he said that actually he was already with her when he travelled with me to Bali. I never suggest violence. But pls if you are me, what do you feel and what will you do? Dun say people are immature when you dun know the truth!!! He had panic attack when I was with him and I took care of him. He said that he won't let me down as I never, but when I lost the job, and everything, he left me and saying it was becoz I can't ski when he took me to France which made him feels ashamed in front of his friends.

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cecilia531720 13 yrs ago
I have expressed myself for more than a year tenderly and sweetly. I dated him everyweek. Afterall, he misbehaved and hurt me again and again ignoring everything. Pls don't hurt me here by words!!! I can't stand anymore

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rob378 13 yrs ago


It seems the OP has forgotten that this is an advice forum, and only wants to hear words of compassion. Some good advice from CaptDave, agree with you 100%...

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BigCyndi 13 yrs ago
cecilia, you have a lot of growing up to do, perhaps this mishap in your love life is one of the lessons, i know you may not agree with me now but the break down of a relationship does teach us something, you learn from every breakup and eventually become a stronger person. After all, it is still better to love and lost than to never been in love. Be strong and take care of yourself


BTW, slapping people is so very wrong, you need to grow up, and learn to control your anger, if I were a guy, I wouldn't let my GF slap me, just like that..

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tinyteddy 13 yrs ago
You slapped your bf when he was a man dressed as a woman and you thought he was the girl from Paris having an affair at Speedating?

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cecilia531720 13 yrs ago
I decided not to see him anymore. It is better. These days I went to see doctor, I take more panic attack and psychological medicine which make me relax.

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dingoberry 13 yrs ago
Ceci, how about meeting more new friends or people to get over with your past boyfriend?

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badnstupid 13 yrs ago
Hi Cecilia,

Take good care of yourself, you deserve a better life without him. I know saying is easy and doing is difficult, but, please do bear in mind that you have CHOICE, you are not being in a dead corner, ok?

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