what would you do if your other half is barely capable?

After 9 years of being in this case, I chose to betray...On the other hand i don't wanna bring any side effects to the family cause we have children. Is this considered cheating? Though i found out it kinda help with our relationship-- now I can control my temper better and be less tough with him.

What do you mean by he's "barely capable"? Of doing what? Financially? Personally?

well, in bed, that's what i'm trying to say

Well yes, under those circumstances, I would say that you are cheating. If it were my husband, whom I happen to love, I would want to talk to him to find out what the problem was and try to help him overcome it. Granted, many men do not like to discuss this sort of thing, they do not like to admit that they have a problem, but I would still try my best to encourage him to seek help. Your husband obviously has a problem of some kind ... could be stress, depression, medical, or, to put it bluntly, he no longer finds you a turn on. There could be a number of reasons, most of which, with the right kind of help, can be put right.


I don't know anything about you or your husband, but unless there is something else wrong with your relationship (apart from in bed) which you are not telling us, then under the circumstances, I find what you have done to be unforgiveable.


If you really have tried to help him in the past, but to no avail, then please forgive my assumption of the circumstances. After nine years in this situation, if you have truly done all you can and things haven't got any better, or he refuses to seek help, then perhaps it's time to discuss with him about your marriage and where it's going.