Unfaithful - how horrible

I with this guy nearly for 2 years, we had been living together, fews month ago from not coming 2 nights to now moved out. In between, we will stay each other place some nights.


3 months ago he told me he signed a contract for Indonesian domestic helper which helping her stay in HK to find a job (save the agency fee), he request she also do a bit house work for him without paid.


I think both girls know me, just not sure they know I am his gf. I never met them. Just contact them one time before.


I know both girls like him and of course they try to grasp him. They will stay overnight when they come to help do house cleaning work. But i wasnt there when they stay. I do really suspected them.


I eventually met a last sunday in his place, i was showed up with notice, because he didnt answer, we was discussing meeting his place or my place.

The helper was freaked saw me and breaking glass in kitchen when we intimate. I was thinking she did in purpose. I didnt stay over since he had to stay Hk to catch his early flight on monday mornig.


Last night, i saw his email, he f*ck both helpers, he aslo bring other girl/prostitue without any protection.


he make me believed he just trying to help them to stay and they just work with them.


He is disgusting and really terrible, disrepectful.


lot of hurt.












Then he got another Philipiness domestic helper work for him other part time business. then the philipiness also asked him to sign for her to stay in HK.

It must feel awful. Be happy you found out what he's capable of before you got married & had kids.


Your observation about d.h. grasping men is well taken, but it's not just d.h.; there is a lot of cheating going on - both men & women. If he's sleeping with women he has power over, he's probably playing with office girls too.


People will say don't blame yourself, but honestly, everyone needs to ask themselves "Am I treating my partner well - or do I leave some reason for them to stray?" Move on, find someone decent, and treat them right.

Hmm. I dunno...I liket the first bit, that was some good advice, CaptDave.


I just wonder about this bit: "Am I treating my partner well - or do I leave some reason for them to stray?"


I mean, if your partner was on the outs with you for whatever reason, would you find the first hapless woman to take advantage of as OP's man has? I mean, its not like he has gone for just any woman, he's preying on dh's looking for someone to sign a contract (something they pay agencies an arm an a leg to do and obviously only have to pay this dipsh*t in sex), or human traffic!


Call me crazy, but that would not be my "go to" option. Not that I am always trotting the moral high ground, but there is a difference between being a man, having balls and saying you want out or going and bonking a bunch of hooker and dh's without protection and then saying "well, she left me no choice with the way she was treating me!" I don't think I am entirely alone on this one, know quite a few guys in my social circle who would have my back on that mindset being a bit wrong.

The guy sounds like a bit of a sexual predator. I doubt if he would be daft enough to risk abusing his work staff, unless he is HK resident working for local company, due to sexual harassment issues.


Just consider it a luck escape. Go to an STD clinic to make sure you are 'clean', this will also help put your mind at rest.